Are you with your soul mate?

[Kaitlyn]

Just odd thinking..

Are you with (whether dating, married, etc.) who you think is your soul mate? The person you can't wait to see everyday or wake up to everyday?

In my prior relationships I've had the guy tell me I'm the one (don't worry I didn't believe it) and I just said thanks, or changed the subject because I didn't feel the same way. And I just wonder if I'll ever find the right guy, haha. Nooo..I'm not rushing it I'm only 19 but in the future, ever wonder it? lol

[Tatesgram]

Yes I am. But I had to go through some real duds to find him :(. Actually, not that many, we got married when I was 23 and he was 26 and we'll be celebrating our 30th this year.

He's my best friend, he keeps me centered and he thinks if I want it, I should have it. :) In a lot of ways, we're opposites, I'm much more quick to get mad then he is, he likes to sleep late and I like to get up really early, stuff like that. But we both believe if you work hard, you can achieve anything, we dispise lazyness, and think family is the most important thing.

Believe me, I would rather be alone then with someone that wasn't my soul mate aka, my best friend. :)

[FatSpottedAppy]

Who knows, sometimes I wonder. I hope I am, I can see myself being with him forever, but there are days I just want to give up because we just don't click in some ways. Such as hobbies: he likes games, and thats all he does, while I like horses, and thats all I do, generally speaking for both of us. We fight a lot and a lot of the time I feel unloved and he knows this but there is very little he does to make me feel better. But I love him, we've been together for over three years now.

I hope I am.

[Arrow]

I'm just glad that Joey ended up with Pacey and not Dawson, that's all I'm saying.

[Kaitlyn]

I'm just glad that Joey ended up with Pacey and not Dawson, that's all I'm saying.

I'm sooo confused.

[zoel_222]

I'm just glad that Joey ended up with Pacey and not Dawson, that's all I'm saying.

hehe :)

[carla]

Yes. :) Honestly, I feel like my hubby is just an extension of me.

And it's funny.. when we were dating (well, we had "dated' before and known each other for several years, but this was the last "serious" dating period before we made it permanent..) I can remember watching a movie with him one night. We were at my apartment on the couch. He was leaning on one arm of the couch, me on the other, our feet pointing at each other's face lol.

I can remember this moment that night when I thought, "wow, why does this feel so different from any other guy I've ever lounged around with watching a movie?" I couldn't describe what exactly felt different, but I'll never forget that feeling. It just felt like "home", for lack of a better word. Maybe like being with a "soulmate?" I dunno.

edit: And a long time ago I started thinking of it this way: I believe it's not who you can see yourself being WITH forever.. but rather, who you can't see yourself ever being without. :)

[miatapony]

I feel that way every day i cant wait to see, look, talk, touch my hubsand. i love to sit in the grage and chat while he works , he comes out to the stables with me and the kids.. we both love sports cars, but i love my horse he loves motorcycles, ok i do too ..lol
but i love FOOTBALL and and my hubby dont.. he laughs at me because i yell and jump up and down ..lol

[dame_wolf]

I believe I am. Everyday I get to open my eyes and see him sleeping next to me, I get to go to bed at night in his arms, we go almost everywhere together even if we don't need to (I really thought this would have gotten old by now or stopped but it hasn't), we text each other during the day when we are apart, and everytime I drive around the corner of my road the first thing I look for is his Jeep in the drive. It's not a matter of 'not being able to live without him' (been there done that with someone else, hurt but still alive so what does that say...) but of finally finding someone that I can live with, someone that will make a future with me (that has always been my problem). He is my best friend, my family, and I don't see a future that does not have him in it.

[palomino]

I dont know.

[PaintedDreamer_0110]

I'd like to believe. We get each other so much and even though we enjoy different things it keeps things interesting in our relationship. He is my everything and thats why I'm so tore up out whats going to happen in the future. I want us last so badly, I'v dreamt of waking up everyday next to him. He is my love. I do love him and he knows it too. I just wish I knew we were going to last, but if we are soul mates i really hope it does last. We've been together for two years already.

[Horseaholic]

I'm with my soul mate. He is my best friend. I can tell him anything and everything. I'm never afraid to do something in front of him. He balances me. I'm uptight and anxious and he's laid back and easy going. Whenever I get upset he's always there to rationally talk me through everything...even when I'm upset with him. This is cheesy but I swear when when we lay together I feel like we are two puzzle pieces that fit perfectly together. I do not know what I would do with out him. I can't imagine life with out him and I can't wait to become parents with him and husband and wife. I love every single part of him. He doesn't judge me, he laughs with me, and he'll sit there and cuddly me when I cr no matter what. He is seriously something else. I am so happy that I went after him like I did..we were just meant to be. ((Cue cheesy music)) lolol

Painted- I hope that everything works out for you two. I honestly think that if he is truly your soul mate you two will find each other again...and when the moment arises and you want it...GO FOR IT. It took 3 times through out 2 years for for my current boyfriend and I to finally figure it out and it's the best decision I have ever made. I was always drawn to him and things would come between us and finally the last time it didn't and it's been 4 years. :) 4 very happy years!

[carla]

Yep- hubby and I met when I was 15, dated for a bit & broke up (side note: he was the first boy I ever kissed! LOLOL!).. another couple casual dinner dates my junior year, same thing senior year. Lost touch after graduation but had mutual friends.. got back together when I turned 21 and I'm 29 now. :)

[Rabid_Raccoon]

Yes :)

I know I'm young, and he's young (We're both 18), but I believe that I am now with the person that I am meant to be with. We've only been together a year and two months, but... I don't know, it's really hard to describe. I feel like we've already been through so much together. I love him more every single day. When I can't see him I miss him, and I'm always looking forward to the next time I get to see him. I'm kind of high maitnence, and he can totally "handle" me, you know? Which is not easy, let me tell you :p. He's patient, steady, forgiving, and... well, amazing. He's made me happier than I ever was before I met him.... Haha okay I'll stop going on about my boyfriend now.

He's about to start his senior year in high school, I'm about to start my freshman year in college. In one year, after he graduates, we plan to get married. I know alot can go wrong in a year... But that's our plan :)

[quest]

I am currently single, but sometimes i wonder if i already KNOW my soulmate

[Horseaholic]

Yes :)

I'm kind of high maitnence, and he can totally "handle" me, you know? Which is not easy, let me tell you :p. He's patient, steady, forgiving, and... well, amazing.

this is my boyfriend too! lol
I hope you guys get married and enjoy each other for the rest of your lives!

Another thing that never seizes to amaze me is there are days where I fall MORE in love with this guy. I swear...it hits me all of a sudden and I'm like, really? I always tell him too lol it will be at the silliest times but it just overtakes me and I love him more and more.

[Kaitlyn]

Quest - I think t e same thing, like do I pass this person everyday not knowing they're who I'm supposed to be with? I hate that! lol.

Great stories/etc guys keep it coming, :)

[Vegashorselady]

Nope. But, I know him. If you ever meet your soul mate just hope he doesn't have a nutso ex-wife to make your life he!! and ruin all hope of a happy future together.

[dame_wolf]

If you ever meet your soul mate just hope he doesn't have a nutso ex-wife to make your life he!! and ruin all hope of a happy future together.

J and I say 'Whoops! To late!'

[JackieB]

Yes, absolutely. We've been together for over 28 years now and will be for the rest of our lives.

[vicklynn]

Do I just say I dont think so.
I think God has Bob and I together for so many reasons. Us being each other soul mates is not one of them.
We are still learning how to deal with each other daily. We do believe He brought us together, and that is what keeps us strong.
We are used to each other, not in comfort like cuddling, but I dont think we would know what to do without each other.
I like it when he is home, but we dont make money with him home.
Its a 2 sided knife.

Do I love him? Ya. Do I like him? Sometimes no.

Ive had my soul mate, then he started heavy drugs, ect. Had to let that go quickly.

[GrungeEquestrian]

Um too early for me to know. I've only been with my boyfriend for almost 2 months, but I want to believe that we are meant to be. And in all the relationships I've had, some bad, and some just pointless this one is completely different. I've always loved him, since I met him back 4 years ago. And being able to talk to him for hours without a moment of silence and knowing from just his smile that everything is going to be ok is amazing. I've never felt that way about anyone the way I feel about him and its indescribable. He is everything I ever needed, and more than I've ever wanted. And even before we started going out, whenever I talked to him it was like I've known him for my entire life and we've been best friends for years. When in fact at that time we knew each other for about 2 years.

[gaited07]

I feel that my husband and I are soul mates. I live for his touch, company, laughter and strengths. We may not have all the same interests and hobbies but we share our concerns, hopes, dreams and goals.
We started out to be friends and then the light bulb turned on and we never looked back.
There isn't a day that he doesn't say that I'm the most beautiful person, and how much he loves me and I feel the same towards him.

[AppyLover]

Yes my husband is my soul mate.
He is my best friend and I would be lost with out him.
I am crazy about him and every day I fall more in love with him.

We started out as friends and eventually let our attractions to each other take hold. I knew he was mine the moment after he dumped me. (Lol, long story), he came back an hour later after he got drunk, called his mom, she called him an idiot so he came crawling back. I haven’t let him go since and everyday I tell him I love him and what he means to me. He does the same for me. We made the vow to never take each other for granted and to always show each other how much we love the other.

We have been married for almost 6 years but together for 8.

:cheers: and here is to many more happy years.

[Horseaholic]

Everyones responses are so interesting to me. When I was wondering what men would agree I knew jackieb would. You remind me of my dad when it comes to your wife. My parents have been married 32 years and my dad loves my mom like he just met her. Although my mom is a pretty amazing person and the best mother and wife I've ever witnessed.

[Vegashorselady]

J and I say 'Whoops! To late!'

LOL, yeah I read your thread and thought, "oh, so that's what I'm missing"! Haha. Seriously though, the ex was scary psycho and the kids were to young to understand what was going on and they were suffering. We just couldn't do it to them, they were scared and confused and the ex wasn't going to stop so it was up to us to "fix" things and the only way was to walk away from the relationship. We had hoped that she would move on eventually and then we could move on with our life but it's been 2 and half years so...doesn't look good for us.

[Vibe]

Want to see my soul mate.
http://i279.photobucket.com/albums/kk130/momentofdelight/Kwon%20Jiyong/1219881886_5.jpg
obby..

[SedonaThunder]

Hmmm... I don't think I believe in soul mates any more. When I was young I loved the idea and when I saw "The Butchers Wife" I was determined to find my 'split-apart' one day. However, I just don't know anymore. I thought a soul mate was someone you couldn't live without... or at least couldn't imagine life without and would do anything to be with them - now that doesn't feel healthy to me. Or perhaps that's just a scary thought to me?

I met my husband just about seven years ago and we've been married for five - I do love him, he's my best friend. However, we have had our rocky times and I realized I could be without him just fine. It's not that I want to be without him but I don't have that "I need him" feeling that it seems like a soul mate comes with. I don't long for his touch, or want to gaze into his eyes, or get excited to see him at the end of the day. Perhaps I'm just too practical and not much of a romantic, but I don't know about the soul mate idea.

[allie0]

I'm currently single but I do wonder.. If I'll ever find the one.
Who knows!

[oursarge]

I'm just glad that Joey ended up with Pacey and not Dawson, that's all I'm saying.

I love this! I'm glad she ended up with Pacey too! I remember when my neice used to watch the show too, she was young, maybe 10, there were things about Joey's life and hers that were the same as far as not being with her father etc.. She was here visiting and we were talking about the show and her father heard it and he said "Who the H*&& is Pacey and why is he dating a guy name Joey" he thought we were talking about real people when he found out it was a TV show and Joey was a girl he wasn't quite as mad that she was watching it. Funny that he was and is a total wild child but with his daughter he wanted her on the straight and narrow all the time and thankfully she turned into a wonderful girl, always responsible, never in trouble.

I assume I'm with my soulmate, we've been together 33 yrs, married 32. We like the same things, like to do the same things. I can't imagine anyone else I'd want to be with. I never planned on getting married ever so this was all a big surprise when it happened!!!! My aunt introduced us, we hit it off and were married 9 months later.

[oursarge]

Hmmm... I don't think I believe in soul mates any more. When I was young I loved the idea and when I saw "The Butchers Wife" I was determined to find my 'split-apart' one day. However, I just don't know anymore. I thought a soul mate was someone you couldn't live without... or at least couldn't imagine life without and would do anything to be with them - now that doesn't feel healthy to me. Or perhaps that's just a scary thought to me?

I met my husband just about seven years ago and we've been married for five - I do love him, he's my best friend. However, we have had our rocky times and I realized I could be without him just fine. It's not that I want to be without him but I don't have that "I need him" feeling that it seems like a soul mate comes with. I don't long for his touch, or want to gaze into his eyes, or get excited to see him at the end of the day. Perhaps I'm just too practical and not much of a romantic, but I don't know about the soul mate idea.

I just read this and I don't know how to double quote. We've been married 32 yrs and I've never wanted to gaze in anyone's eyes or long for a touch or any of that romantic stuff people read in books. I always say we're probably the most unromantic people in the world, we're in a comfortable, stable [so far] relationship, we love each other, we get along [most of the time] we just are who we are, we like being together and if he wasn't here I'd miss him for sure but we aren't always hugging and kissing and carrying on, we never did. I can't stand that stuff when people are hanging all over each other. I think the trouble comes in when people think that when you get married all that "courting" stuff goes on forever and it normally doesn't and sometimes the ones who brag that it does and they're swinging from chandeliers are the ones who are the most unhappy.

On one of our anniversaries my cousin sent us a card and went on and on how I should put my wedding dress on and we should relive our wedding day [Yeah like that would happen] and we should gaze in each other's eyes and she went on and on and on all this romantic stuff that you read in books and isn't real life. I'm still married, she's working on finding a 3rd man [I never looked for a man, my aunt found mine for me, I was friends with lots but didn't want a husband 'til I met him] and I think part of it is she's living in a fairy tale. The worst part of this all is she's writing it all on facebook [Or facespace as an aunt calls it] every other week she's in love now. The other day she wrote she was in love and I was like "Is it the cowboy? He's cute" no the Cowboy is gone now and it's someone else. I think she's looking for something that's not there but then maybe some people have it and we're practical and not much of romantics either but we're pretty happy [even though I hate PA] so I guess that's all that counts.

[SedonaThunder]

We've been married 32 yrs and I've never wanted to gaze in anyone's eyes or long for a touch or any of that romantic stuff people read in books. I always say we're probably the most unromantic people in the world, we're in a comfortable, stable [so far] relationship, we love each other, we get along [most of the time] we just are who we are, we like being together and if he wasn't here I'd miss him for sure but we aren't always hugging and kissing and carrying on, we never did. I can't stand that stuff when people are hanging all over each other. I think the trouble comes in when people think that when you get married all that "courting" stuff goes on forever and it normally doesn't and sometimes the ones who brag that it does and they're swinging from chandeliers are the ones who are the most unhappy... ...but we're pretty happy [even though I hate PA] so I guess that's all that counts.
Thanks OurSarge - there's something very comforting in knowing I'm not alone!:)

[carla]

On one of our anniversaries my cousin sent us a card and went on and on how I should put my wedding dress on and we should relive our wedding day ... and we should gaze in each other's eyes and she went on and on and on all this romantic stuff...

LOL! Uhhh, yeah! :eek:

[CircleR]

A pure and simple YES!!

[dame_wolf]

LOL, yeah I read your thread and thought, "oh, so that's what I'm missing"! Haha. Seriously though, the ex was scary psycho and the kids were to young to understand what was going on and they were suffering. We just couldn't do it to them, they were scared and confused and the ex wasn't going to stop so it was up to us to "fix" things and the only way was to walk away from the relationship. We had hoped that she would move on eventually and then we could move on with our life but it's been 2 and half years so...doesn't look good for us.

I hear ya! I'm sorry you are going through this.

J has made it perfectly clear to the ex and the kids that he wants me in his life and I am here to stay. Doesn't stop her from making trouble or from the kids from well being kids. Good thing J's kids aren't to young to understand... Sometimes they just don't want to. It's not always easy but it is always worth it.

[Petra]

I just read this and I don't know how to double quote. We've been married 32 yrs and I've never wanted to gaze in anyone's eyes or long for a touch or any of that romantic stuff people read in books. I always say we're probably the most unromantic people in the world, we're in a comfortable, stable [so far] relationship, we love each other, we get along [most of the time] we just are who we are, we like being together and if he wasn't here I'd miss him for sure but we aren't always hugging and kissing and carrying on, we never did. I can't stand that stuff when people are hanging all over each other. I think the trouble comes in when people think that when you get married all that "courting" stuff goes on forever and it normally doesn't and sometimes the ones who brag that it does and they're swinging from chandeliers are the ones who are the most unhappy.


Not sure about being "most unhappy". Me and my husband are both just as crazy about each other as we were 6 years ago. We like to cuddle, kiss, hold hands. I couldn't care less what others think - it feels wonderful. We go everywhere together and I have never had the need to be away from him. Would I manage to live without him? Sure I managed to live my life without him before just fine. I am very independent person. Would I ever be happy. Absolutely no. I have not been happy for most of my life. In fact I couldn't wait to be old and done with it. Ever since I met him I am happy and loved. I enjoy every second of my life. I had no idea life can be this wonderful. He is my soul mate. I would hate my life without him.

[Equine_Woman]

I'm just glad that Joey ended up with Pacey and not Dawson, that's all I'm saying.

Omg that made me laugh. whew...

And yes I'm with my soul mate, but she's a horse. Lol, don't worry, my husband understands. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade my husband for anything and I love him completely, but I really believe Sterling is my soul mate. . .

[FoxFireEMT]

I am.... I have never imagined my wedding & marriage and families until I met Matt. It was close to almost immediate that I started to see wedding bells. Of course I didn't say this to him, nor did I give in to it. I've been in a couple long term relationships over the last several years & I never saw the future with them like I did with Matt. Just the other day (in case you missed my announcement) he asked me to marry him. :) I am thrilled & couldn't ask for anything more. He is my soul mate & my better half. We are both the same in many ways, but different enough to teach each other the things we never thought about before.

[Arrow]

Omg that made me laugh. whew...

And yes I'm with my soul mate, but she's a horse. Lol, don't worry, my husband understands. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade my husband for anything and I love him completely, but I really believe Sterling is my soul mate. . .


I would agree--Arrow's the equine half of me.

[Rabid_Raccoon]

this is my boyfriend too! lol
I hope you guys get married and enjoy each other for the rest of your lives!



Thanks! Me too :D

[shiver]

Tough question... I guess I don't like the term either.

I have been with my husband since the 8th grade. Cute until you have kids that age, then it freaks you out. We have been together 19 years. This will freak some people out. But I love him more than I love my kids. They will leave me someday. My husband won't.

I think people confuse love with lust to much. I love my husband.. I lust after him to for that matter. But our love doesn't have to be the I can't be away from you for 5 minutes type stuff either.

My husband and I fight "argue" all the time. It can be annoying... but that doesn't mean we don't love each other. We don't like the same hobbies and definitely have different kinds of friends. My husband is a home body and I hate being home and sitting still. But again... we still love each other.

To me love is when your partner gets sick and you do anything to make them better. To me love is sacrificing what you want for someone else. Love is putting the other person first. I don't mean forget about yourself. But if you are both doing it then you will be fulfilled.

Does this make sense, I love my husband. I never want to live without him. He makes me very happy. But soul mate... That puts a lot of responsibility on someone to be perfect. And I haven't meet a perfect person yet.

Oh, and I'm glade that Joey picked Percy also!!

[oursarge]

That's well said Shiver!!! Very well said.

Petra I know you have a wonderful life with your husband and I am thrilled for you, you are a great looking couple and I know you are happy. Your wedding pictures do look like a fairy tale. I don't mind holding hands in public [We hold hands too] I'm talking about the ones who should be getting a room rather than the stuff they do out in public. That turns me off but that's me, I'm just not a mushy kind of person, I HATE when a person I don't know touches me, I have real issues with that so maybe it's my problem.

I used to work in an office filled with mostly women, some men. I found the women who would come in and tell every detail of their romantic life [Where the dangling from chandeliers comes in! Just a "saying"]. My cousin's daughter is on Facebook telling intimate details that I sure don't need to know. One lady in our office used to come in and announce "We "participated [her words] last night". Now WHY did all of the people in the office need to know that???? I sure didn't need that picture in my head all day. She would tell every detail too, I would try to turn her off. Turns out they weren't very happy together and she had alot of issues about it later in life. I guess my point is you can be happy and love your spouse but some of the ones who go on and on about it and tell you all the intimate details trying to make you feel like there is something wrong with your relationship because you aren't on the chandeliers aren't always the happy ones. You can be happy and say you are happy but some details are a little much and trying to make someone feel bad because they don't act like that isn't really a great thing to do either which is what some people do, I've had it done to me. They were bragging but we're still together and they are on their 2nd and 3rd. You have to be yourself, we are who we are and nobody can change us. We're comfortable together, happy together, love each other but we don't need to shout it from the roof tops and honestly he knows that my first horse was the love of my life. I wanted a horse since I knew what a horse was and Dommie was a dream horse. I never wanted a man but I got one and I do love him and wouldn't trade him I just don't have to tell anyone everything about our relationship like the lady I worked with did!

I wouldn't trade my man for anything and he feels the same about me, 32 yrs is a long time, we do hold hands when we go places but we aren't hanging all over each other. There is not another man in the world I'd rather be with but we're not a real romantic fall all over each other kind of couple, we never were. I like to see him when he comes from work [Oh God he retired this year....that'll be too much togetherness we'll probably kill each other!] but we don't sit and gaze at each other and we aren't mushy, we never were even in the beginning. I think we're meant to be together but I also never say never as far as one of us leaving. I don't plan to but we know a couple who got divorced after 50 years together so nobody can see into the future.