kind of frustrated about moving

[zoel_222]

As you guys know from my last thread, I'm working on moving out of my parents' house and over to Jax Beach in Florida. Well I am all thrilled about this and know without a doubt it's what I want to do. I just need to come up with $5000 which shouldn't be too hard if I get Auda and my truck sold. Plus I'm working online doing advertising and I'm making a wee bit of money with that. My goal is to leave by December after Christmas and before New Years.

The thing that's frustrating me is my parents. They're really upset at me and taking the whole moving out thing very personally, especially my mom. She yelled at me the other day and told me I should just leave now if I hate it here so much. They've been like "You're our last kid and you're leaving too soon, we need you here, your horses need you... blah blah blah" just really guilt tripping me about the whole thing. I'm 17, so yes I'm leaving a year earlier than expected, but I'm also graduating a year early have been working full time for the past year and have supported my horses and the majority of my own needs during that time. I'm really miserable here and I just don't see the point in staying here and playing baby for my parents when it makes me so unhappy. Because I owned my horses I lost my teenage years. I went from a kid straight to an adult who has to work fulltime to support four "children." I am certainly not about to lose my 20s doing the same thing. I know when I am grown up and all settled down I will want my horses again, but I just need to be able to be free and not be tied down to anything and just worry about myself for once instead of the rest of the world falling apart around me. I wish my parents could understand that I'm not running away from them I'm running away from me.

bleh. Why does life have to be so hard? :mad:

[JackieB]

Sorry for the frustration, Zoe. Just try to be patient and sympathetic. Their lwonderful baby girl is growing up and moving out on her own. I know that would be so hard for me.

[mare]

Some parents have a harder time than others when their children leave home.

I must have missed your other thread on the move, so I am curious... At 17 will you have your own health insurance? Can you sign a lease? Get utilities?

I left home very young. Just shy of 16. But, I finished high school on race tracks (STB and TB) and all the housing, insurance, utilities was provided. My oldest daughter moved out on her own at 17 and had to get co-signers for a lot of things.

Love Jacksonville, though!

[zoel_222]

JackieB, thank you. I realize why this is hard for them. I think it just came as a big shock because we moved here for my horses and they were expecting me to pursue a life working with horses and always have them at home and live relatively close by. I'm sure if my teenager said to me "I think I'm going to move to Florida next month" I'd be pretty freaked too.

Some parents have a harder time than others when their children leave home.

I must have missed your other thread on the move, so I am curious... At 17 will you have your own health insurance? Can you sign a lease? Get utilities?

I left home very young. Just shy of 16. But, I finished high school on race tracks (STB and TB) and all the housing, insurance, utilities was provided. My oldest daughter moved out on her own at 17 and had to get co-signers for a lot of things.

Love Jacksonville, though!

Here's my original thread:
http://www.baywindfarm.com/forum/showthread.php?t=11040

I don't have health insurance or any insurance as it is so I'm not really worried about that. Haven't had it since my mom worked in Alaska. There are a lot of apartments in the area I've been scoping out that are under the table, so to speak. My brother's landlord is convinced he's a drug dealer because he's self employed and works from home. Still he is very kind and fair to my brother. :rolleyes: His lease is two sentences long and he pays cash on the 1st of each month. I'm sure I could find something similar. I might be moving in with my brother. We talked a little about that, but I'm not sure about it yet. My brother is very... mysterious... so I'm not sure if he really wants me to move in or is just being nice because he's my brother. I'd pay half the rent of course and it would just be like we're roommates, not me being a little leeching sister. I am not sure about utilities. I didn't think that was a problem if I was 17. I obviously will not be able to rent a nice apartment through a realtor that will run a credit check or anything. I just want anything not in the ghetto that's close to the beach.



Good news.... I had a very long talk with my mom this evening and told her that I am happy for everything her and my dad have done for me and I'm glad we moved here and they've done nothing wrong, it's just time for me to leave. She's doing okay now. She said she's fine with me leaving Whitney and Chica here and she said she doesn't want me to hire someone to come out like I was planning on doing. She wants to start riding again and take care of them for me. My dad said he'll help too. She's being very supportive now and said she'll help me move out by December like I want and will also help me graduate as soon as possible. Not really sure how she will help me do those things, but it's nice that she said she will. My dad also offered to help financially, saying he'd buy my plane ticket and give me some spending money. I'm not going to take his money, but it was nice that he offered.

[mare]

Glad you had a good visit with your folks. Personally, I love moving to new places, meeting new people and all that, so I'll wish you the best in your new adventure!

[HeartofSteel]

I'm glad your mom had took up interest in riding again, that would be good for your ponies :) I'm hoping Auda gets to come visit me for awhile :D