Nightmare come true.

[FatSpottedAppy]

The guy I wanted to be with for the rest of my life I'm not longer with.

I broke up with him because I felt like everything else was prioritized before me. We had tried countless of times to make it work and I could see that tonight our road had finally come to an end. So after 3 years and 5 months of some of the best and worse moments of my life, I'm single.

And I'm so depressed.

[GrungeEquestrian]

Morgan, I am so so sorry. :( But honestly if he put other things before you he is not worth it. There are much better guys out there that will treat you much better. Go out and give your ponies a hug, it will make you feel better.

If you ever need anyone to talk to, send me a pm or whatever.:)

[Dakota Sunrise]

Omg, Morgan, I am so sorry.:( (((hugs))) I don't even know what to say except that if you ever need to vent, just want to talk, or need a shoulder to cry on, you can pm/AIM/call me anytime.

[Palogal]

Young love is a wonderful thing. It's awesome, and it hurts. It's warming you up for true love and let me tell you ladies, true love will knock your socks off. This guy was just getting out of the way for Mr. Right. It hurts now, but truly, think about it...If this guys is NOT it, then imagine how you're going to feel about the one who IS!

[Equine_Woman]

I'm so sorry!!! I know that is hard to deal with! Just hang in there, each day will get easier!!!

[Rabid_Raccoon]

I'm so sorry this happened! I can't imagine what it must feel like, being with someone for that long.

Hang in there, all your forum friends are here for you. It must be really hard right now... but something better is waiting for you.

:grouphug:

[mare]

I'm sorry you are hurting right now. It really will get better with time. Really.

[FatSpottedAppy]

I have hope in getting through this. Our relationship was very unique, we shared every single thing about each other and were both extremely close. He is the one guy I know would never cheat on me and he still loves me like I love him but we just have different goals in life. It all seems surreal and I am just begging to wake up from a terrible dream even though this is reality.

I might sound like a broken record, but this relationship was like no other. It's not your stereotypical teen relationship. It meant the world to me. I just want to lay down and die right now.

[Equine_Woman]

I know it hurts. I broke up with my hubby in High School. We were separated for about a year. So I say who's to say it won't eventually work out in the long run. . Not right, right now, may be just right later on. . hang in there. Are you guys going to stay friends? It's important that you are true to yourself and follow what you know is best for you and it really sounds like you are doing that!! Hugs!

[Kaitlyn]

OMG Morgan..I'm so sorry. Love is love..I understand the pain and I'm still going through it. Try to stay strong, we're all here for you. :(

[prissy18]

I just want to lay down and die right now.

O hun I have been there. But dont ever say you wanna die. Nothing is worth your life. You have a purpose and just rember you deserve to be treated like a princess. Because you are one!

[valleyrider]

So sorry you are going threw this right now. As others said we are here for you((hugs)).. If he is putting other things before you than something is not right. He is not feeling the same as you are... Mr right is out there waiting for you and you will find him. be patient.

[KittySawrus]

I can't think of much to say...
(>")>
I'm so sorry for you Morgan :(
It'll pass, honest it will...

[oursarge]

So sorry Morgan.

[Gypsy Rose]

I'm so sorry! I don't really know what to say, either, except for one thing.

From what you're describing, it sounds like maybe you were destined to be best friends. And I mean truly best friends- a person like you said that you can share all your thoughts and feelings with with no pressure or worry.

I say this, because I have such a friend. He's been with me through a lot of ups and downs in my life for over 20 years.

[JackieB]

Sorry, FSA. Thinking of you.

[lovesfortune]

Young love is a wonderful thing. It's awesome, and it hurts. It's warming you up for true love and let me tell you ladies, true love will knock your socks off. This guy was just getting out of the way for Mr. Right. It hurts now, but truly, think about it...If this guys is NOT it, then imagine how you're going to feel about the one who IS!

Couldn't have said it better myself. Although it might not be what you want to hear now. :)

We are here for you!

[carla]

I'm so very sorry that you're hurting, FSA. But look at Palogal- WONDERFUL post! :clap:

edit: OMG- loves, are you copying me? ;)

[Horseaholic]

Oh FSA , I'm really sorry. I know the feeling of feeling like you got ran over by an 18 wheeler. That pain deep down in your gut. I promise you though that everything happens for a reason and whether that reason be so he can realize how important you are to him and he can get his priorities straight, for you to grow, or that Mr. Right is somewhere out there patiently waiting... It will all work out. You are strong for realizing what needed to be done and I applaud you for that. Hang in there girly...this too shall past.

[Fjords <3]

Aw Morgan -lots of hugs- I know it feels like the end of the world, but there's other fish in the sea. Lots lol. Try to think of it in a good way though. It's good that you discovered that you were growing apart now instead of in the future when you'd made a commitment to each other. You deserve to be with someone who enjoys the same things as you do. If you wanna talk, I'm here :]

[~*Domino*~]

Like every one has said it does get better. If it was truely meant to be it will be again. Give it time. Being apart sometimes is a good thing and he will realize what he is missing. So sorry! ((hugs))

[FatSpottedAppy]

Well, I tried to get back together with him. I was breaking down all through work. What a disaster.

I called him and asked him to come and meet me in town because I had to talk to him and wanted to in person. He was out the door to a party. He agreed.

As soon as I was leaving the house to get in the truck, he called again. He said no, lets talk on the phone. I told him I wanted to see him in person but he insisted we talk on the phone. So we talked on the phone and I poured out my guts. I told him how much I missed him, how I feel terrible, how I am miserable, what a terrible decision I made, and I wanted to get back to him. Silence. Nothing except "Morgan.." and "I was thinking about what you said and if we do get back together it will just be the same old thing." He sounded irritated. I told him to have fun at his party and I hung up. I could barely understand myself because I was bawling so hard.

And I talked to Mom. He's a jerk. If he truly cared about my feelings, if I was still at the "highest regard in his heart" he would've came to see me in person to comfort me, not say he was going to and then call it off. He could've at least tried to comfort me on the phone, I haven't bawled so hard since I watched my beloved dog get hit in the road.

What is really upsetting is he is going to this party and whenever I wanted him to go to a party he said no and he sat on his butt and played games all night.


We broke up because I was getting tired of feeling like everything was put in front of me. While I'm sure he would get up at 5-6 AM to do something on his game, he wouldn't get up past 12 PM to see me and even then he was complaining about how tired he was and he'd lay half dead on the couch all day until I left.. As soon as I left he'd run right up to his game and play it until 4 or 5 in the morning.
He never ever wanted to see me, or talk to me-- he always sounded eager to get off the phone with me when we said good night to each other. He never wanted to go places with me and he'd never ask his mom for her car to drive to my house and see me for 3-4 hours, but he had no problem asking her if he could take it to a concert 2 hours away for the whole day which he would be getting up in the very, very early morning for.

He said he was tired of me complaining and nagging all the time about our relationship. The things above are the things I nagged about.

I don't mean to sound conceded but I was the perfect girlfriend for him. I got up from laying down to get the phone for him, to get the remote for him, to let his dog out, etc, while he just laid there. I watched the shows he wanted to watch. Watched the movies he wanted to watch. When I wanted to go on walks and he didn't usually we'd just lay there. I was always there for him. Always wanted to be there with him, hug him, kiss him, talk to him.

What more does he want in a girl?


I just know i am never going to get back with this jerk. He has hurt me so bad.

[lovesfortune]

Oh Morgan. Now what I'm about to say I want you to know I say because I care. As I was reading that you wrote all I could think was, "he's just not that into you." i'm sorry to say that I think he was comfortable with the fact that you would put 100% into the relationship and do whatever he wanted while he got to sit back and enjoy the benefits of never having to do much.

I think it's a good thing that you came to this realization, no matter how much it hurts. I have been in the EXACT same position when I was your age (well a year or two older and a 2 year relationship) and it hurt. I was hurt for a long time and it made relationships hard. We tried the whole "friends" thing and it DID NOT WORK. It was a tough break up. I truly think 1/2 the heartache and the struggle comes from just having that constant that was in your life for so long - no longer be there. When we get used to that and adjust - things get easier.

BUT IT DOES GET BETTER. I met my now husband about 6 months after my break up with my ex and have never looked back. My ex and I got back in contact a few years ago and he apologized for how he treated me (he treated me just like your ex did) and said it bothered him to this day. It's amazing how much that apology made me feel better - even years later - even though I no longer wanted a relationship.

I don't know if this makes any sense though or if I'm just rambling. But just try to surround yourself with your friends and your family (even if they drive you crazy sometimes :) ) and your forum family and you'll get through it.

((hugs))

[Aina]

Ok, so I have never been in this situation, so this is pretty much blind advice. But I would say cut off all communication with him. He needs to grow up. Even if he comes back to you saying he was wrong. Maybe in a few years if you haven't found anyone you could think about restarting the relationship, but he really needs to grow up right now.

[FatSpottedAppy]

Well, he's on a wild search for friends and trying to make connections with old friends now that we're no longer together. Funny because he would never do that when I was around. He just sat on his ass all day. Haha. I'm heartbroken but I am going to move on.

He said I was his best friend. Best friends would want to comfort each other and would drop going to a party to comfort them. He's no longer a friend to me, he's an acquaintance, I found his true colors and they're not pretty. So much for love. I could never get back with him now.

[peace_baby]

I'm really sorry about what happened, Morgan. I went through the same thing back in February with a guy I dated for over 3 years also.

I can kinda see what happened between you two, but I won't post it. It's basically the same thing that happened with me. I will say, however, that if you want or need to - I'm here and you can PM me anytime. :)

[Fjords <3]

Good for you! You deserve wayyy better than that. It sounds like you did everything you possibly could to make him happy, but he never did the same. I wouldn't want to be with a guy like that. Good job for looking to move on.

[allie0]

Aweeee Morgan!
*hugs*
We're all here for you, I guess in a way its good that his true colours have come through, but I think you're being really mature about things.
You'll pull through.