Rumors.

[Jump The Moon]

:cry:Is there anything you can do once it's started

[carla]

:( I don't guess so, but that's hard to say.. ??

[lacyloo]

Denie everything and find out who started them.

[Jump The Moon]

What if it's one of my best friends that has told?

[lacyloo]

hmm are the rumors true? She sounds jealous to me.But then again I don't know what the rumor was.

[Jump The Moon]

The rhumor is true :(
I don't think she's jealous, it's about me & my ex. what we 'did' - we are over now, there's nothing to be jealous of.

[lacyloo]

Have you confronted her about it,and why she is telling people?

[Jump The Moon]

I don't believe she's at all confused. We talked about it for hours.
I don't know why she is telling people, we haven't fallen out or anything.
She knows how much people knowing this is going to ruin me. :cry:

ETA: Sorry, misread your post. I haven't yet no. I hate comfrontations.

[lacyloo]

She knows how much people knowing this is going to ruin me. :cry:

Thats just mean.I wouldn't be her "friend" anymore :nono:

[Jump The Moon]

But it's hard not to be, this has happened before, but like, I've always forgiven her at some point. We never stay 'not friends'.

[missyfritz]

I'm sorry to hear you've hit a rough spot! I've gone through similar situations with some of my friends, but a true friend would keep you in mind and not spread rumors. It might be hard to handle, but she doesn't sound like a very good friend to me.

[vicklynn]

Quit forgiving her if she keeps doing this. Well, you can forgive her, but you dont have to be friends with her.
Why would you want to be? Just curious.
She obviously needs to spread rumors about you to make herself feel better.

[lacyloo]

I had the SAME thing happen last year.She "was" my bestfriend .I'm a lady of my word and your secrets are safe with me and I expect my friends to do the same.Well I found out she was running her mouth about me and confronted her about it.She of coarse denied everything.I hate lier's and we are no longer friends.

**hugs**
Especially if she has done this before ! that sends up a red flag ,and you will have future troubles with this girl.

[Jump The Moon]

I'm sorry to hear you've hit a rough spot! I've gone through similar situations with some of my friends, but a true friend would keep you in mind and not spread rumors. It might be hard to handle, but she doesn't sound like a very good friend to me.

You're right.
Right now I couldn't care less if we stop being friends. But I am so scared about monday. We've had ONE day back at school after summer and this allready? By monday I'll bet half the yeargroup knows. Then what do I do? :cry::cry:

[Jump The Moon]

Quit forgiving her if she keeps doing this. Well, you can forgive her, but you dont have to be friends with her.
Why would you want to be? Just curious.
She obviously needs to spread rumors about you to make herself feel better.

I don't want to be, but (away from horses) I have very little self confidence, I'm not good at telling people I'm upset with them and things like that.

[Jump The Moon]

I had the SAME thing happen last year.She "was" my bestfriend .I'm a lady of my word and your secrets are safe with me and I expect my friends to do the same.Well I found out she was running her mouth about me and confronted her about it.She of coarse denied everything.I hate lier's and we are no longer friends.

**hugs**
Especially if she has done this before ! that sends up a red flag ,and you will have future troubles with this girl.

Thank you, I think this time I'm going to have to talk to her about it. I'm scared of that, but I need too.

[oursarge]

What Vicky says and also never tell people your secrets unless it's your parents or if you are married your spouse. I never tell anyone anything I wouldn't want known, I never write anything I wouldn't want known. I have trust issues with people I guess. It's funny because I have so many people who tell me their secrets and they know they will never be told because I forget everything so 5 minutes after they tell me I've forgotten! I have all these secrets in my head that people have told me but I can't remember them!!!!

[Horseaholic]

If you want to stay friends with this girl stop telling her things. She obviously can't be trusted. I wouldn't be friends with her if I were you but I know that's easier said than done.

Just curious...why is it going to ruin you? You shouldn't be ashamed of what you did with someone you were in love with (or at least thought you were). (I'm assuming this is the guy you used to talk about) You shouldn't be ashamed of yourself.

[Jump The Moon]

What Vicky says and also never tell people your secrets unless it's your parents or if you are married your spouse. I never tell anyone anything I wouldn't want known, I never write anything I wouldn't want known. I have trust issues with people I guess. It's funny because I have so many people who tell me their secrets and they know they will never be told because I forget everything so 5 minutes after they tell me I've forgotten! I have all these secrets in my head that people have told me but I can't remember them!!!!

Your right.
From now on, my guards are up.
I tell Alice more than I tell my day-to-day friends (allieO on here;))

[KittySawrus]

You know, I think I need to come over there and sort somebody out. I do it for all my friends over here...what's 100 miles? :L

I hope you get the courage to face her, and ask her WHAT'S THE CRACK LITTLE MISS SUNSHINE!!! And also to know better than to take her back for making you feel this way. When somebody does that it's pretty unforgivable. Thankfully the only person who ever did that to me ended up dropping out of school :L

Chin up chuck!

(>")>

[GrungeEquestrian]

I honestly couldn't stay friends with someone like that. You need to confront her about it and stick up for yourself. She isn't a true friend that's for sure, and in my opinion not someone you should trust ever again. Some people just floor me. As for the rumor don't be ashamed of it. Like Michelle said, people talk and you loved (or thought you loved) the guy. This should smooth over soon. Good luck, and if you ever need to talk...feel free to pm me.

[oursarge]

If I need to talk I tell my animals too, well all except my bird because she would talk about it! Hope all goes well for you. I know it's nice to have someone to tell your secrets too but it's too easy for someone to get mad and spill everything you've told them so it's easier just to keep it to yourself or tell your horse or dog.

You have a Westie right? I have one now too, she's a little rip! She is actually very smart but she's at that rebellious stage and doesn't like to come when called. She is so cute though but I have to find ways to keep her amused. We might build some little jumps for her to see if she'll go over them, something to make her think.

[lovesfortune]

What's better:
Having a crappy friend that tells your secrets and has done it more than once and will probably keep doing it?

OR

Having one less friend, even if it means you don't have many to start with?

I would choose one less. It's not how many friends you have that matters, it's how great of friends the ones you have ARE.

[Jump The Moon]

You have a Westie right? I have one now too, she's a little rip! She is actually very smart but she's at that rebellious stage and doesn't like to come when called. She is so cute though but I have to find ways to keep her amused. We might build some little jumps for her to see if she'll go over them, something to make her think.

I do, Rolo was just the same! For about a YEAR he was "the dog from hell".
Then one day, everything clicked into perfection. He started behaving, so then our agility improved by miles - we even won some stuff :D It's his 4th birthday on the 26th! :D
Can't believe it's almost 4 years ago my baby came, best £200 I've ever spent and he is defintily worth the 6 years I saved up for him. :)

[Jump The Moon]

What's better:
Having a crappy friend that tells your secrets and has done it more than once and will probably keep doing it?

OR

Having one less friend, even if it means you don't have many to start with?

I would choose one less. It's not how many friends you have that matters, it's how great of friends the ones you have ARE.

You are right :) I have quite alot of friends and a few 'close' friends. She was a 'close' one, I have no idea why, or how she ended up like that.

I am going to talk to her on monday.
Ohh, I am scared.
I'm not good at this stuff.

[lovesfortune]

Well good luck. YOu have to stick up for you.. .no one else is going to do it for you. And trust me, you'll feel a lot better about it all when you have confronted her... even if it ends bad.

You have to stand for something or you'll fall for anything. :) (< a quote i heard a while back - pretty good one)

[oursarge]

Good luck with your "friend", hope it all works out.

Hugs to Rolo, I know the time with them goes so fast. I can't believe we've had "puppy" {that's what I call her} for almost 4 months. I hope she'll be a good girl when she gets over the puppy stuff. She is smart but at times she acts like she doesn't know anything! I love her anyway though but I sure do miss my Noah. Hugs to Rolo. I hope he has a very happy birthday.

[peace_baby]

You'll be great, JTM. :) You're a good person and what goes around comes around. ;)

(I'm not saying start spreading rumors about her, though. It'll come around eventually and bite her in the butt.)

Just act like you don't know anything about the rumors. Deny everything if you feel it'll ruin you. Really, the only people who really need to know about what went on between you and an ex is you and your ex. I would just act ignorant about the whole thing if I were you.

As far as your "friend" goes... I would tell her to piss off. She's not worth your time if she's going to do this to you. :)

[cheval]

I don't want to be, but (away from horses) I have very little self confidence, I'm not good at telling people I'm upset with them and things like that.

Then people are going to walk all over you and pull stuff like this. If a friend can do this to you and you can't confront them and find out why someone you trust is doing this, you've really got to reevaluate some things.

[Jump The Moon]

Then people are going to walk all over you and pull stuff like this. If a friend can do this to you and you can't confront them and find out why someone you trust is doing this, you've really got to reevaluate some things.

I know :(
I am going to comfront her, no more ''putting up with it''

[Jump The Moon]

oursage, thank you - I bake him ''special'' treats on his birthday :)

[natisha]

I know :(
I am going to comfront her, no more ''putting up with it'' If it is true it's not a rumor. As for school act like you think it is so far fetched that it's not worth commenting about. If approached on the subject just roll your eyes & say "Oh sure, I do that all the time", then drop it.
If it were my friend & I wanted to keep her around I would inform her that I would no longer be telling her anything personal & I didn't want to hear her denials. At that point she will probably get mad at you but so be it.
In a few years none of this will matter anyway.

A good friend will help you move,
a great friend will help you move the body.

[gabhainn]

F@#$ her you are better than that dont bring herself to her level by even responding. Hold your head up, and if someone brings it up give them a withering glare and walk on..............Kevin

[JackieB]

We'll be thinking of you, JTM. Please try to stand up for yourself as well as possible. A true friend doesn't do this to another friend. I would at least let her know that she has hurt you and caused you a great deal of stress.

As for you, hold your head high. You're a terrific person and this will pass.

[Jump The Moon]

Thank you everybody, I'm seeing her tomorrow so I'll take to her about it then. The really annoying thing is that my ex is going completely mental at me for telling her anything (fyi, he told HIS friend too. so really, I'm no worse than him). But I'm glad I'm free of him, I have since learned he was more violent that he told me (he told me about one or two cases) I can do without that kind of person, especially when they start telling me "You spend too much time with your stupid horse." If they can't accept me with my horse, they can't have me.

[luv2show]

Rach, girls can be sooo mean and ones that act like that are not worth it. Just like boys, you have to pick through them to find the good ones... it's friggin hard! LOL
Anyways, I hope you can stick up for yourself today, explain to her that you trusted her enough to tell her and that it really hurt your feelings she went and spread your private stuff. I wouldn't get overly mad about it, because it is true but like I said, just inform her how it made you feel.

Hope you can get this sorted out. I know it sucks and it's probably stressing you out. Don't sweat it, people will talk, you're at that age. By next week it'll just be a part of the past.

[JackieB]

If they can't accept me with my horse, they can't have me.

Good for you! That's not much to ask of a person at all. The fantastic relationship you have with Billy makes you happier, more enthusiastic, more confident, more everything good. The right kind of guy will understand that.

[Remali]

Good for you, he sounds like bad news. When he said, "you spend too much time with your stupid horse....." that would have been IT for me. A couple years ago I moved in with my boyfriend (I had known him for a very long time, almost 30 years, we had dated back in the early 1980's and had always remained good friends, yeah, I'm an old bat! LOL).... he KNEW all about my pets and he knew I had owned dogs and horses and rabbits all my life, he knew they would always be with me and a part of my life....he said they were just fine. Well..... one DAY after I moved in with him I knew something was up, things really just went from bad to worse......I still am not sure what really was the cause of it all, but it was obvious he did not like my dogs (they behaved so well too)..... but like I've always said, if I have to choose between my pets and a man..... the man goes!! And, I moved out after only three weeks of living there, never looked back, and glad I got outta there! Life's too short!

[luv2show]

Whoops! wrong thread haha

[KittySawrus]

especially when they start telling me "You spend too much time with your stupid horse." If they can't accept me with my horse, they can't have me.

At a risk of repeating JackieB, you go girl! I know one too many "horsewomen" who've given up something they love for a guy they spent six months dating and the rest of the year regretting.
Tell us how it goes, if you saw her (>")> I was rootin' for ya in me head all day!!

[allie0]

F@#$ her you are better than that dont bring herself to her level by even responding. Hold your head up, and if someone brings it up give them a withering glare and walk on..............Kevin


Perfect advice.