Need a new LOA person please!!!

[vicklynn]

As much fun as I have in this LOAs. I need to relinquish my "powers" (ya right hu)...LOL

I do not want to go into why.

I also need to put in an LOA for myself.
I am dealing with some really F@*ing depressing emotions right now and really need to just hide in a corner for the rest of my life.

FYI, City will be going up for sale within the next 6 months.
That dosnt help.

[pandorasmom]

Vicky I'm so soooooooo sorry!!! Hugs hugs hugs to you :grouphug:! I'll help how I can. :) If ya need me to do something I'll do what I can.

If ya need to vent I'm here to listen. :grouphug:

[WashingtonBay]

Vicklynn, whatever's happening, I hope you don't stay in your dark corner, I hope you seek out friends to talk to.

[valleyrider]

Vick,, sorry to hear you are feeling depressed:grouphug: Please don't hide.. we are hear for you and you know that. Do you mind me asking why you have to sell City????

[Ranger44]

I have a "man shoulder" if you need one and there are a few other good ones here too! Feel free to PM me any time. Depression is not something to handle alone. Seek out friends please.

[Horseaholic]

Vick...my stomach dropped reading this. Please don't go into your dark corner alone. It doesn't do you any good. We are here for you. Please don't turn away. ((HUGE hugs)). If there is anything we can do...do not hesitate.

[oursarge]

Oh Vicky I'm so sorry, if you need to talk you know you can PM me here or check in on Facebook. This is all a shock, I'm thrown for a loop. Try to take care and you know everyone cares about you so don't hide in the corner, you don't have to go into personal details just keep in touch so we all know you are OK. You were such a help with my Noah I'd like to help you if I could. My heart breaks about City, maybe things will change and you can keep him, lease him, or someone on here can keep him for you 'til things change, something so you don't have to sell him if you don't want to. I can only hope all will be well.

[AppyLover]

Hay Vick, I am truly sorry that what ever is happening right now is hitting you so hard. I hope things straighten out and you can find your light at the end of it all. I know it may not seam this way, but things will get better. Just give what ever it is time to heal. I am sorry to also hear about City. I hope for the best and that things work out in your favor. You are a super sweet person and friend and it breaks my heart knowing you are hurting.

My ear and shoulder are always here for you, even in the times you may feel alone, please remember you do have people who care about you. So please don’t stay hidden for long...but take all the time you need.

[vicklynn]

Thank you for your kind support.
Right now I just cant write it all out, its just to much, things have been going on for to long, and I just cant deal with it, nor know how to turn things around, and there is nothing anyone can do about it, not even me. Ive tried and it does no good.
FYI, you here online are my only friends any more, so talking to someone in person to figure it all out is not happening, and there is so much that I just cant say.
Just keep me in your prayers and thoughts.
FYI, I like life, depression will never take that from me.

[Gliderider]

I am so sorry Vick. You are in my thoughts and prayers. If you want to talk feel free to pm me. HUGS

[Equine_Woman]

Oh Vicky!! I'm so sorry to hear that!!!!! You know we are here for you and always will be!!!!! If you need to call somebody to vent feel free to call me anytime!!! Whatever it is you are dealing with I hope it gets better! I know there's not much more I can say but I'll be thinking of you!

[miatapony]

welll hey hun im here for ya ... if you need me shoot me a pm and we can call eachother....

[farmers_wife]

I am sorry Vicky. I pmed you so if you need to talk, I am a good listener.

[pandorasmom]

Whatever it is, we're here. I hope things become easier for you regardless of what's happening now or going to happen. We are all here for you, period. :grouphug:

[prissy18]

Vick if you need to talk you can pmor facebook me. First an formost pray. I know you do so Just a reminder. God is on your side and will never take you through something that you wont grow from. (((((HUGS))))). Hun no matter what it will get better. <3

[oursarge]

I know this sounds stupid but if you can't talk to people talk to the animals, they always listen. I'm not one to share my secrets to anyone but my animals, they know everything. Take care of yourself, you have lots of friends here as you can see, you can turn to any one of us. You can also write it down then rip it up so nobody sees it but you get it out. I've done that too. Only good thoughts for you.

[JackieB]

Hang in there, Vick. As others have said, please don't head into that corner and hide. We're all thinking of you.

[valleyrider]

I agree with oursarge,, talk to your animals, if you are not ready to talk to us.. They will give you love and they will listen.

[lisakaye]

I am sorry to hear that you are having a rough time right now. I had a very rough summer so I can totally relate. I hope things work out for you and I really hope that you do not have to sell City. Say your prayers and I will send some your way too.

[Petra]

i'm so sorry to hear you are having a hard time. (((hugs))) life sometimes really sucks. i promise sooner or later it gets better.
i have nothing to do for next 8 weeks so if you want to talk i'm here.

[Country Girl 43]

Oh no! Vick... I don't know what happened, but please do not do things alone. You know we are all here for you. I will give you a call tomorro if you feel like talking great.... if not, that is fine to. You know I have a good ear and shoulder.

[Steelhorserider]

Vick--your post has shocked me and everyone else here on the forum. I cannot say I understand what you are going through, but I respect your wish to keep it private. If you need to talk you have a ton of real friends here on the forum and you can pm any one of us if you feel comfortable talking about it. I wish you the best with your fight with depression and am going to include you in my thoughts and prayers. Please check in every now and then and let us know you are ok. If you need anything, please let your forum family help.

[BlaiseGlaze]

Vicky, You know you can call me, I know u have my number. I wish positive thoughts for you and am so very terribly sorry that you are having to sell City. I think I understand why tho....
Talk to any one of your animals while you groom them. bury ur face in fur and cry, they really don't mind that.
Big Hug Doll!!!

[Gypsy Rose]

Vicky, I'm so sorry to hear you're going through such a rough time!

Please remember we're all like family here, and we're here if you need us.

I don't know what I would have done last winter if it hadn't been for this forum, and I know we'll all be here to help in any way we can.

Just as oters have said, you can pm me if you like. I, too, just as many others have been through some rough times.

Sending big ((((HUGS)))) your way!

[APPYT]

Extra healing thoughts and prayers for you. You have tons of friends here who will listen or just hold your hand as you wish. Please do not hesitate to call on one of us. {{{{HUGS}}}} and if nothing else talk to God. He has the strongest shoulders of all.

[~*Domino*~]

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this! Depression suxs! Hugs and prayer will be sent from Oregon! Take care and please talk to someone just to get it out, you can't do it on your own, it is just not healthy! ((hugs))

[peace_baby]

I'm really sorry to hear about this unfortunate turn of events, Vicklynn. :( We're all here for you and you can pm me anytime. I wish you the best. :grouphug:

[Rabid_Raccoon]

:( I'm sorry you're going through a hard time right now, all of your forum friends (including me) are here for you! You're an awesome lady, and life isn't fair. :grouphug: I hope things turn around for the better soon.

[PoniesRock101]

:grouphug: Sorry you have to go through all of this.

[lovesfortune]

Oh Vicky I'm so sorry, if you need to talk you know you can PM me here or check in on Facebook. This is all a shock, I'm thrown for a loop. Try to take care and you know everyone cares about you so don't hide in the corner, you don't have to go into personal details just keep in touch so we all know you are OK. You were such a help with my Noah I'd like to help you if I could. My heart breaks about City, maybe things will change and you can keep him, lease him, or someone on here can keep him for you 'til things change, something so you don't have to sell him if you don't want to. I can only hope all will be well.

This is what I wanted to say.... I'll be thinking about you Vick.

[vicklynn]

So, I talked to a few people today. My husband, who needed to hear, really hear what I had to say. He wasnt happy about it, but I needed to get a load off my chest. Things have been an issue for some time. I HATE credit cards and I hate it when a spouse does things behind the others back. He was cordial when he said, I need to go, not mean nor rude like he can be. I did get to say what I think was everything on my plate, and we only argued some.

He had time to think about what is going on in our marriage, some I am hoping will stick this time. I am sick of triangles.

I talked with CG and she agrees with me on moving on with City. She understands where I am coming from. I had a talk with Dixie the other day about him too, she also agrees.
Here is the issue.
City needs to be riden ALOT, which where I live, for me any way, dosnt happen. The past 2 winters were awful, frozen ground for months, no arena or pasture to ride, and my issues of me always hurting myself(dipchit)do not make it conducive for him in moving forward. Even if I work him up and get him where I want him by the end of the yr, IF I heal and dont need surgury, what about next time. What about when I injure myself again, the winter is nasty, spring full of storms, fall, well, that depends on the day, and although this August and Sept were pretty nice, the last couple yrs were miserably hot. So, for Citys sake, him having a better home, someone who will work him often, take him to shows or what ever, is what he needs.
You know this is killing me and I love him, but to love him is to let him grow, which means let go.
I was asked, and this may be a huge option, about free leasing him. I passed that on to my husband, ya we talked again, and he is liking that idea. Me too.
As I talked with my husband again today, he told me some changes he just made yesterday. I was happy to hear that CCs went out of the wallet.

I will continue on with this in a bit. I have help that just arrived.

[Country Girl 43]

Hey Vick.... here's a thought... how about you moving everything here to AZ... ;)

I am glad you and hubby talked again. Remember I am just a phone call away. :)

[gaited07]

VL,

I'm so sorry to hear about everything going on. (((HUGS)))

I understand that this is a tough decision and I'm sure you will be making the right one.

[oursarge]

Only good thoughts for you. I totally understand the weather messing up your horse training, we've had nothing but horrid weather the last 2 years and I've gotten to do about nothing with my boys. I want an indoor arena so badly but I might as well ask for the moon since the prices are out of site, we can never afford one. I do have a round pen but with all the rain and mud it's floating most of the time. It has been OK here the past week so I worked both boys once....great, once all summer because of their health issues, mine or the weather. I can't afford to board 2 more so they don't get much done with them. They don't care though they think it's great and when I do work with them they've remembered what they learned it's just frustrating for me not them, they love to be out there being free and playing. I'm not sure what a free lease is but if it lets you keep City but have him used that sounds good. What ever you decide you know you have everyone's support, you're never alone.

[lovesfortune]

Hugs for you Vick. You are right, you are doing the best thing for City by loving him enough to do what he needs. A free lease sounds like a really great idea. I know lots of people that would jump at the chance of a free lease and get him the hours in the saddle he needs.

Maybe you could lease him to someone who would board him at an place that has an indoor, etc. so you could get out there and see him/work with him in the winter after he has had a few wet blankets.

As for credit cards, I hate them too. I know we've talked about it before, but did you and hubby ever do the Fireproof book? The Dare one? I know it would be harder with him on the road, but maybe worth the extra effort?

[vicklynn]

Hey Vick.... here's a thought... how about you moving everything here to AZ... ;)

I am glad you and hubby talked again. Remember I am just a phone call away. :)
Ya, Im on the way..lol.
Im glad we talked too. I just hope the light that came on in his head stays there.
I appreciate your call more than you know.
Bob came up with an idea for a girl we know to free lease. I will have to give her a call in the next week or 2. I need to give me time to bring all this in.
If she says no, or the contract is not right for her, I will move on to the forum.

Only good thoughts for you. I totally understand the weather messing up your horse training, we've had nothing but horrid weather the last 2 years and I've gotten to do about nothing with my boys. I want an indoor arena so badly but I might as well ask for the moon since the prices are out of site, we can never afford one. I do have a round pen but with all the rain and mud it's floating most of the time. It has been OK here the past week so I worked both boys once....great, once all summer because of their health issues, mine or the weather. I can't afford to board 2 more so they don't get much done with them. They don't care though they think it's great and when I do work with them they've remembered what they learned it's just frustrating for me not them, they love to be out there being free and playing. I'm not sure what a free lease is but if it lets you keep City but have him used that sounds good. What ever you decide you know you have everyone's support, you're never alone.
A free lease is, someone would care for City just like I do, pay all the bills, ride, ect, board, what ever, but I would still own him. Its a way for someone to use a horse without the purchase price. Contracts are a must in this situation.

Hugs for you Vick. You are right, you are doing the best thing for City by loving him enough to do what he needs. A free lease sounds like a really great idea. I know lots of people that would jump at the chance of a free lease and get him the hours in the saddle he needs.

Maybe you could lease him to someone who would board him at an place that has an indoor, etc. so you could get out there and see him/work with him in the winter after he has had a few wet blankets.

As for credit cards, I hate them too. I know we've talked about it before, but did you and hubby ever do the Fireproof book? The Dare one? I know it would be harder with him on the road, but maybe worth the extra effort?
We had NO credit cards when we married and I liked it that way. We fought for months over getting the first one...he won. I get tired of the pushing me into things I dont want nor want to do. He got an ear full today. I just hope it sunk in this time.
I really perked up at the free lease idea CG gave me. It will give me the opportunity to decide if I want to keep him or sell him later.

As far as the books, well, IF we could get on the same page it would be nice, but its hard to start when I know it wont get finished. Im with you though, Id be all for it.
Do you know how many programs of what ever we have started only not to finish.
Not sure why and it just bugs me. I wanna finish them, but he dosnt make the effort.
Maybe thats a conversation we need to have next.

I dont remember where my thoughts were going on the other post I made earlier, when my help came.
I had some hay moved for space, as I have a load being delivered between tonight and Wednesday!!!

[vicklynn]

VL,

I'm so sorry to hear about everything going on. (((HUGS)))

I understand that this is a tough decision and I'm sure you will be making the right one.
Thanks for the hugs, Ive sure needed loads of them.

Thank you all for being here and helping me through this.
If I havent called you, its not that Im ignoring you, Im pooped and busy at the same time.
I cant wait until the weekend of the 18th, Im off for 3 days and 2 of them are for a garage sale yet again. I need to sit and do nothing for a reason, not cause Im lame...LOL

[oursarge]

The free lease sounds really good for now 'til you can figure things out, maybe he'll get fixed so you can ride him without pain or worrying about getting hurt then he can be all yours again or maybe you'll have to let him go but at least you'll have time to think. I hope all will be well.

I hate credit cards too, I wasn't brought up using them for everything, my man was so that's been a little issue for us too. For us it was if you can't afford it you don't have it but they were brought up charge it. I joke it's only plastic you don't really have to pay but you do and that's the problem. We only have one but I have alot of issues with having it.

You know that everyone here only wants the best for you and your family both unfuzzy and fuzzy!

[zoel_222]

I suck at encouraging words, but my heart goes out to you.

major hugs
:grouphug:

[vicklynn]

I suck at encouraging words, but my heart goes out to you.

major hugs
:grouphug:
LOL..you made me laugh...thanks
Thanks for the hugs too...LOL

[GrungeEquestrian]

O my gosh, I am so sorry Vick. :( Please don't hide in a dark corner. God I'm at a lost of words I was at shock reading this.

[zoel_222]

LOL..you made me laugh...thanks
Thanks for the hugs too...LOL

Glad I could do something :cowboy:

[mare]

Gosh, Vick. I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. Hugs and prayers from this way, too.

:grouphug:

[Equine_Woman]

Well I'm relieved that it sounds like you have a plan in place. I think you will do the right thing for City no matter how hard it is. I hope the free lease works out and I completely understand why you have to part with him. I couldn't keep that training schedule either. Life gets in the way for me.

I hope your hubby and you can work it out! I know how hard money issues can be! Credit cards are evil! Unfortunately no matter what I do I can't dig myself out of the debt we've incurred. . .I have a plan though. . .

If you need to talk, I'm here! Big hugs!

[pandorasmom]

I'm glad to hear you've worked something out from the sounds of it. :) I think free leasing City sounds like a fabulous idea. Sounds like you've got a plan for the majority now, and that's great. ;)

If ya need to talk I'm here and will still keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs :grouphug:!

[vicklynn]

Thanks Mare, I appreciate it. I appreciate ALL of you, your thoughts and prayers.

I have a grasp on what needs to be done with City, yet still need to do some thinking on when.
I need to get some healing done and let my heart know that what I am doing is OK.
I still have Myst to ride and hang with, which will be easier on me.
When I send City out on a lease, it will be easier for me to make the final decision on keeping him and having him back some day, or selling. Time and distance will help with that and my heart.

As far as the other things, we will see where it goes. Just keep praying.
I said what I needed to to my husband, and talked with a friend about our friendship today.
I think the friend understood and am glad they had feedback about my concerns about our lacking in the friendship dept. It was good to see them today and I think although we may not work together any more, that an understanding was met, on both our sides. I love honest people, they give it to me straight.
I needed that too. It helps me keep prospective.
I know they are not crazy about my decision with City. They were very attached to Storm when I gave him away, and now they are hiding their emotions on City. I see it in them and they know how much he means to me.
It is for the best.

[Gypsy Rose]

Aww, Vicky! I hope everything works out for you okay. It's hard saying what's on your mind not knowing how the other person is going to react.

You are a great person for knowing what is really best for City, and being able to act on it.

[valleyrider]

Vick, Glad to hear you are talking about you problems and sorry to hear what they are. I know how horrible CC debt can. I have been there.. You get so behind it is almost impossible to get caught up. I hope you can work things out with your Hubby.. As far as City, sounds like you have a plan that can work for you while you straighten out your life..We know how much you love him and we know what ever you decide we are behind you 100%

[Tatesgram]

Whoa Vicklynn, from the first post until the last was a huge change, from despair to a definite light at the end of the tunnel. I haven't been on much lately and I was shocked to read of your depression. But it sounds like you have taken it head on and are dealing with everything in your own way, I'm proud of you. :)

Many hugs and prayers to you, and like others have stated, I'm here if you need me, I have wide shoulders.

[HoustonFarrier]

As for credit cards, I hate them too. ?

Those damn things are the root of all evil. Best thing Danielle and I ever did was make the decision 4 years ago to shred them all, and we focused for 4 years, and we have paid them ALL off....never to use them again. We have a gas card, but we pay it off every month, so we have no charges on it.

Hang in there...keep talking.

Steve

[JackieB]

Those damn things are the root of all evil. Best thing Danielle and I ever did was make the decision 4 years ago to shred them all, and we focused for 4 years, and we have paid them ALL off....never to use them again.

Good job, Steve. I completely agree. Credit cards are way too dangerous. Most people just don't understand the hole they dig with those things. We have them, but have paid them off every month for over 15 years now and will never have an outstanding balance again.

We're here for you, Vick!!!!!

[alittleoffkey]

Credit cards are awful. I have one that I use rarely... and I use it like a debit card. If I don't have the cash in my account, it doesn't get spent.

Prayers up for you Vick, I hope everything works out.

[Petra]

oh i'm with you vick. i never had a credit card in my life. i much prefer debit cards.
good luck to you...you are doing the right thing.

[vicklynn]

Thanks again folks.
I hear ya about the CCs. I didnt want ANY, ever again when I got out from under them in the 90s.
Guess Bob never learned about them. I need us to pay them off and keep them for emergencies.

Had a much better day today!! You all REALLY helped me make it through a rough couple days.
I usually dont tell what is going on, so by the time you hear about it, Ive over the edge.
I havent cried at all today!!! yeah..and I stopped at a place on the way home, just to check it out, but you will have to find another thread(doggy thread)to see what made me smile from ear to ear.
Cause if that didnt make me smile, nothing would....lol

[HoustonFarrier]

Cause if that didnt make me smile, nothing would....lol

Well...I was gonna "volunteer" to come and sit in your dark corner with you :p you never know what kinda trouble you can get into :D:D LMAO !!!

Steve

[vicklynn]

Well...I was gonna "volunteer" to come and sit in your dark corner with you :p you never know what kinda trouble you can get into :D:D LMAO !!!

Steve
Im not EVEN going there...LMBO...that could be to much fun, getting in trouble...hehehee

[shewasmyshadow]

Well, who do I send my LOA to?? I'm going the Mexico on Saturday and I still need to turn in paperwork! :D

I PM'd you vick. Looks like my PM was a little late, though. I did it after reading the first post! Came back to read the whole thread afterwards.

[vicklynn]

Well, who do I send my LOA to?? I'm going the Mexico on Saturday and I still need to turn in paperwork! :D

I PM'd you vick. Looks like my PM was a little late, though. I did it after reading the first post! Came back to read the whole thread afterwards.
I appreciate your PM hon. I will be reading later what you sent me to read.

My reason behind someone else doing LOAs is, its just not good for me to see where everyone is going right now. I need to get me in order, my marriage in order, my finances in order, and everything else. It kind of adds to my feeling down.

I am on the look out for someone to lease City. I will be making a call tomorrow to a lady I know.
If she dosnt know of anyone I would accept, or she dosnt want to do it, then I will start here on the forum. I have one request from here already.

[Horseaholic]

I'm glad you're holding your chin up! I'm off to find the doggie thread :)

[shewasmyshadow]

Okay, the I hereby nominate JackieB. It would nice to have a guy doing it for once. :D I think it'd be kind of fun to change it up. Do I here a second on the motion?? Any discussion??

[JackieB]

Okay, the I hereby nominate JackieB. It would nice to have a guy doing it for once. :D I think it'd be kind of fun to change it up. Do I here a second on the motion?? Any discussion??

Thanks for thinking of me, SWMS.

Actually, I might like to see LOAs go by the wayside. You may recall that I made a post earlier this summer after reading an article about a guy whose house was burglarized shortly after he made a tweet from a city far from home. The article went on to point out that when we let our friends on the Internet know we will be gone, we also let everyone else know.

For most, I know that this isn't a significant concern, but I decided to stop giving LOA notices myself.

Maybe we could continue the fun by making a requirement that anytime someone comes back from a vacation or significant trip and posts with pictures that they have to submit a Trip Expense Report to Accounting and send virtual cookies to the Auditor so that he/she might approve an expense for a pair of sunglasses, Clinton Anderson t-shirt, whatever. Nate might get a kick out of that little joke. :)

I'd be willing to be the official Expense Report Auditor if you wish.

[carla]

Vick! I just saw this, and was worried at the beginning that I wouldn't see any more posts from you in here. I am so glad that the replies helped you out a bit, and even more glad that you had a good day yesterday. :)

I hope that things will continue to get a little better each day for you.. depression is NO fun. As for now, just stay on top of your "to-do list" (for lack of a better term at such an early hour) that you've decided on and stick with it! We are here for you. ((((HUGS))))

[oursarge]

I'm so clueless I was never sure what an LOA is! I am guessing it's asking permission to leave for awhile? I hardly go anywhere, Vermont once a year and we didn't even get to go there this year because of the puppy. Maybe later in the fall but I'm doubting it.

Anyway I agree with JackieB, you just never know who's reading what and who will be breaking into your house. I saw the same thing on the news people Twittering where they are and while they're doing that their houses are broken into. For awhile around here there were robberies when people died, the vultures would see the funeral notices then rob the houses during the viewings or funeral. Sick fools. When my father in law died we had people stay at my mother in law's house.

She was robbed a couple yrs later though. My brother in law was in a bar and just happened to mention to a friend who asked how she was doing that she had a part time job for the Christmas season. The next day her house was robbed. We figure it was someone who overheard him saying she'd be gone. They never caught them. I don't even tell people when my parents are away even though they live 2 hrs away because you just never know. We have a security system but where we live by the time the police got here they could walk off with the house. We don't have much to take anyway but I worry about the animals getting out. There are alot of robberies here even though we live in the middle of nowhere a few yrs ago there were robberies every weekend, that was scary, they got that couple just by accident, long story but the husband is in jail, I don't think they put the wife in jail, I think she was abused or something. We got the system during that time when so many people we knew were robbed on a Sat. night and at the time we were gone every Sat. night.

Anyway good luck with what you all decide. Vicky a friend of mine said something similar the other day. She hardly gets to leave the farm because it's a farm, 7 days a week. She said when people come in and tell her they're going here or there or they go on and on about their vacations she sometimes has a twinge. She feels bad she does but she can't help but feel a little bad that she hasn't had a real vacation in yrs. I told her I understand but the thing is when it comes right down to it she loves what she does, she lives for what she does, most people can't say that. I hope all will be well with you, we're all thinking about you.

[vicklynn]

JackieB, your right, we probably should change this up. Thing is if we say what were calling it, and some jerk that likes to read this stuff is reading it, they would know what the new term is...gesh, can win hu.

Carla, thanks, I wasnt sure I was going to come back for awhile after that first post. Id been crying for days and crying when I wrote it, cried at work when having a private talk with my boss,and about to right now. Thing is, I needed you all, I still do. I needed to read your replies, talk to the people I did, and still need to make a call. I needed to have a line of some sort, some where, and I couldnt not reach out, I was drowning. So ya, I had to stay.

Oursarge, an LOA is a Leave of Absence. Just lets us know where one is. I agree that we should not have them, maybe find a different word and some how get it spread around to the members.
As much as I love having my horses n dogs. I miss the city, outskirts of it. Before I moved here I had loads of friends, now, I have people that I know, one couple that are friends with me, have their own life so I try not to bother them. My sister always envied my outgoing personality and how I had so many friends, true friends, and I dont know how to be that friend any more. Ive lost so much trust in people. Ive been sucked dry by peoples actions here(where I live), that I dont know how to trust a true friendship.

[TLC97]

Just got caught up on all this.

First----- Vick I think your LOA request has been DENIED!!!!!!!!!! You are stuck with us, this big, at times disfunctional, entertaining, informative family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Life gives us HUGE amounts of CRAP at times, it is how you get through it and push forward that makes us stronger and you are one strong determined woman!!!!!

As far as City goes, you are putting what is best for him first, that makes you a top horse owner in my book.

{{{{{HUGE HUGS}}}}}

( I need to learn to spell better, DUH)

[oursarge]

I have major trust issues with people, before I met the gang from the stable I lived here for years with no real friends, I knew people because of my man's job but no real friends. I still don't like living here but even if I go home I won't know anyone, my two best friends from home are gone, one has died, the other is in TX, we talk all the time but it's different. My cousins have always been my friends since I don't trust strangers easily.

When I met my friend Sue it was like we connected on so many levels right down to being allergic to everything so we understand when there are issues. I lost my Dommie, she lost her favorite horse not much before Dommie. We met because Dommie died, my husband knew her and liked her and thought she could help me because I was in a horrible state. We both have depression tendencies so we try to keep each other up and I honestly could very easily become agoraphobic, it's a fight and she pulls me out of that too, I hear "Get your A** up here and ride" if I haven't been up in a few days and she knows I'm sinking, it's been very bad since Noah died. She does make me laugh, her whole family does, they're all so funny. I'm not sure what I would have done without them the past 3 yrs. My man is good too but it's different to have a female to talk to that understands the mood swings, hot flashes etc. from "Mentalpause". It is strange for me since I hadn't had anything like that except for my cousins in years and as much as I love my cousins they have no interest in horses, all of Sue's interests revolve around horses.

I have never been outgoing, I will probably be the crazy cat lady when I get older but I can understand what you mean about all of it. Loving the animals but yet they tie you down. I was upset that we couldn't go to VT because of the puppy but she comes first. VT has been where I've found my peace so not being able to go really threw me for a loop. I hope things will get better for you, I guess after all this rambling I just want you to know you aren't alone and I think everyone feels the same way sometimes and if you get hurt by someone it's so hard to trust again. Take care of yourself.

[shewasmyshadow]

So, if we want to let people know to expect our absence from the forum we should? PM another member of the forum and alert them? Don't you remember how much trouble you got into for not tell us your were going to be gone, JackieB?? You have to tell someone. Or the potato salad and Woozles will be called out to hunt you down.

If you want to initiate something new for post-trip bragging, then you should probably start a new thread in this section with all the "rules" so we know what we're doing... :doh:

[Country Girl 43]

I don't see a problem with the LOA's. We don't have our address's on here. Most of the time it's just the City and State. If somebody is able to find my house off the forum.... well, then I must have advertised my full name, address and exact location in the newspaper as well as painted my house with my screen name. Because I doubt there would be any other way to find me.

Simply put.... I tell the forum members if I am going to be gone and where I am going. Since I usually drive everywhere, I like to know where people are at in case I get into trouble on the road, I could call one of you.

Now, do I tell all my neighbors?? Absolutely NOT! Only ONE neighbor knows if we leave and that neighbor is a cop. If he see's anyone around our house he takes care of it. ;)

[Me'N'Chic]

Just catching up on some reading and saw your thread, Vick! I am so sorry you are going through so much sorrow right now! I just want you to know that I am here anytime you wanna talk or if you want a ((((HUG))))!!!!