Makes Me Sick

[GrungeEquestrian]

Well I mentioned it a while back how I left my old riding place. My riding instructor and my mom did not get along, the main problem was my riding instructor tried to act as if she was my mom. After 8 years my mother had had enough...especially when it came to my instructor telling me what I was going to do with my life. I left it wasn't pretty and two months later I got Trouble. After another month my instructor called saying that she had to sell the farm and was wondering if I could lease out Dash...and pay for all his expenses but I could lease him for free. That didn't fly with my parents and two horses is too much money so the offer was turned down.

Well today my instructor came to my house while I was at school, she dropped off some stuff and just talked about how she was dead broke. She has found two homes for two of her horses but refuses to sell any of the other ones. She also had someone call the STATE humane society on her because her three older horses are not in good shape. She told my mom that "the lady didn't know anything about horses, and they are skinny because they are old." Oldest excuse in the book...they are skinny because their teeth haven't been floated in forever and they aren't being fed properly. They didn't take away her horses just gave her a warning, but she refuses to give them up. For some stupid reason I feel sorry for her, but I don't know what to do! Everyone seems to just stand there while she is on the edge of straving 15 horses.

[Cat]

I'm sorry to hear that, but there is not much you can do right now. In these cases I wise the authorities would have taken at least one, it may have given her a wake-up call on the others.

[Ix3Morgans]

Oh dear thats not a good situation.
Its not stupid to feel sorry for her, you rode there for 8 years and Im sure developed an attachment with her and the horses even if it didnt end well.
I am not quite sure what you could do to help her dont feel bad its not your fault shes not being realistic. perhaps tell your friends about some lovely horses up for lease to try and help out a bit, but theres only so much you can do.

:/
the economy sucks

[EnglishGuy]

I'd stay away from her to be honest. You shouldn't have much reason for being involved with her, and you don't want to be lumped in with her when people make assumptions because of her horses conditions.

[MileHighOlli]

How frustrating. It hard to watch horses you have known and worked around not be cared for the way they should. Sadly this situation seems to be happening more frequently.

[GrungeEquestrian]

I'd stay away from her to be honest. You shouldn't have much reason for being involved with her, and you don't want to be lumped in with her when people make assumptions because of her horses conditions.

Yeah thats what my mom said, she said it would be best not to get tangled in her mess again!

And yeah I guess I just feel really bad for all the horses...I know every single one of them, and one of the mares that she got called for I rode and showed for years...now she is wasting away.

here she is....Freckles!

http://i76.photobucket.com/albums/j10/horsehugger113/DSC00484.jpg

[Cat]

Beautiful mare! What a pity.

[starkitten]

Such a pity - what I would give to have my own place and tons of money so I could own such a majestic animal like Freckles - what a beauty.

Some people have no sense

[Palogal]

Feel bad for the horses, nothing wrong with that. As for her, they are her responsibility.

[GrungeEquestrian]

Yeah I love her to pieces..she is 18 in this picture and that was about 6 years ago. She is blind in one eye, but a purebred Arabian mare with some AMAZING bloodlines. It got me so angry when I heard this...and I just got done talking to my mom. Apparently the gelding my sister rode who is also 24 now only has one set of molars to grid...guess that's what happens when you don't every float your horses teeth. Part of me wants to drive by and throw a a few bales of hale over. But I don't know if I would be able to control my anger...and I don't want to be posting on this forum from jail.

[Palogal]

That's probably why she came over, hoping you'd go throw some hay. This is a tough lesson to learn as a young person. You can't save them all. That sucks, but it's true. Hopefully the authorities will do what needs to be done.

[GrungeEquestrian]

Yup thats the horses only hope right now. And yes a very tough lesson indeed.

[JackieB]

It's a tough, tough lesson, GrungeEquestrian. I let out a big, sad sigh for you while reading this post. We can't help every animal that we'd like to, and it really hurts to have to accept that sometimes.

I have to say that I agree with your mom. It's almost certainly not a good idea for you to get back involved with this lady. She doesn't have a good plan for caring for her animals, and is not yet willing to give all of them up, either. Getting personally involved with people like this is emotionally and financially taxing.

Hopefully, the authorities will keep an eye on her place now that they know there is a problem.

[PatriotsDreamer]

As hard as it is. turn her in too, anonymously. It may hurt to do so, but think of the worrysome problem you could potentially be helping relieve her from, and the horses lives you may help save. Friend or no friend, its not fair to the horses.

[GrungeEquestrian]

Wow thats so much guys for the support, my mom was thinking about doing this. Not only are the horses not in the best condition but I don't think she has enough acreage for all of them. My instructor has tried to contact me many times over the past few months and I have done a pretty good job of ignoring her. Its harder now that animals are involved...but my mom is going to call tomorrow and I am going to take to some of my horse friends and see if anyone is willing to take in a horse...maybe some reality might sink into her shallow brain.

[Equine_Woman]

I'm sorry you are in this position. When I was 12 My trainer had a midlife crisis and left her husband and left me . . .then a few years later she showed back up wanting me to come work for her (for free). The first time I went over there she was drinking and hanging around flirting with men while she was giving lessons. That was the last time I went. Don't let someone make you feel bad about you or try and use you. I'd stay out of it. Hopefully someone will step up and take care of the horses!! Big hugs. It's rough.