My Mom's Dating...

[Horserider]

Yeah I know I'm weirded out too. I mean I'm the 15 year old daughter I should be the one dating. I should be the one that's up until midnight talking on the phone, the one that gets in trouble for staying out after curfew. She stayed after work to play cards with a friend. She told me she'd be home at 1 and she came home at 3. I was going to yell at her for coming home late and making me worry, but I was too tired at 3 in the morning.

It's like we've had our roles reversed. She's dating and I'm the one sitting at home worrying. It's just...weird.

[WashingtonBay]

Heh... oh dear. If it's any consolation, I know a bit about that. My folks divorced, and my mom dated and then remarried (before she died)... My dad has a long time girlfriend now.

It was a little tough when I was a teenager because step-parents change the whole dynamic of the house. But hopefully, if or when that happens, you'll work it out. Tough and difficult doesn't mean impossible, it just means you have to be a little flexible to a little weirdness and change!

[Vibe]

Lol, Sorry about all that. But as long as your mom is happy, thats all that matters right.:) I think she is probably well past the age of having a curfew. Hope everything works out for you!
Now would be a good time to ask her for a car, since she is all happy and stuff. :D JK.

[starkitten]

Maybe tell her that you realize she is old enough not to have a curfew - but you do worry so if she could let you know about what time she will be home you would feel better :)

[Vibe]

Maybe tell her that you realize she is old enough not to have a curfew - but you do worry so if she could let you know about what time she will be home you would feel better :)

Good idea. :)

[peace_baby]

My dad is dating also.
I don't really think it's weird though.
I don't want him to be alone and it's really hard on him because he's such a social person.
My parents divorced about 6 or 7 years ago, so it's been a while.
My mom is already remarried but my dad's still lookin.
I feel bad for him sometimes because he doesn't have anyone yet.

[Cat]

I grew up with my mom dating and now that she is divorced from my step dad she is dating again and my youngest sister now gets to go through it. I see nothing wrong with it because they are still human and still crave human companionship with a partner even if their previous marriage/long term commitment did not work out. You as a daughter does not quite fill that roll. ;)

With you being 15 she probably feels you can handle yourself and thus didn't give getting back late a 2nd thought. Honestly, you have no right to yell at your mother for getting back late. However, it is within your reach to respectfully ask her to let you know next time if she is going to be out later than planned so that you don't worry. If you do it nicely and respectfully I am sure she will do her best to let you know next time.

[cheval]

When my mom dated, oh holy hell did I act out. I thought it was the end of the world. I feel bad about chasing off a lot of the guys. But not all of them.

Try to take it in stride and realize mom's have companionship needs for adults (hanging out) that kids don't always meet. When you're a kid it's hard to see that. And you may not fully realize well into your adulthood. Explain to her how it feels though. Be up front and talk it out. That was the mistake I made. I didn't talk to her.

[mare]

I agree that she should let you know where she will be and how long. Just seems like a courtesy to me. It would weird me out, too, though.

[Horserider]

Honestly, you have no right to yell at your mother for getting back late.

Yeah I agree, but i wasn't literally going to yell.

Tonight she took the dog for a walk and was gone for 2 hours. It snowed while she was gone. I had a near panic attack because it was like an hour after dark.

It's hard because I sit at home and have these visions of me calling my grandpa or the police and telling him that mom never came home. And then I tell myself, "If she's not home by this time, then I'll call" type thoughts.

She knows I was worried while she was gone.