Aww man...she broke my heart!

[Country Girl 43]

Today I was working on something in the kitchen. Cheyenne found the wishbone I had set out to dry. She asked if we could pull it...I said sure, but you need to make a wish first.

She looked at me with those big brown eyes and said....." But my wish will never come true" I told her if she gets the big half her wish might come true. " No mom, it won't"

Ok, so I asked "What is your wish?" She responded...." I wish Ladybird would come back." :cry: I tried to keep it together althoug my heart was breaking for her, and explained that I missed Ladybird too and that she really needs to give Missy a chance. But she still started crying and got me crying... I try to be strong for her, but damn I miss Ladybird as much as the kids! Especially during a time like this....:(

[ItsPrimeTime]

That is so sad :( I feel your pain girls! Niko too<3

[alittleoffkey]

((((((((((HUGS!!!)))))))))) I'm so sorry CG. I can't imagine going through that with kids. I think Cheyenne gets us all a little :cry:.

[JackieB]

That's pretty tough. Missy deserves a chance to be the best horse possible, though. Ladybird would certainly want that.

[Steelhorserider]

Aww....hopefully it will get easier in time...I still miss my original Sky (have a second Sky who came with the name)....he is gone 2 years now and I still think about him and get a tear in my eye. A big hug to you and the kids!

[oursarge]

What a heartbreak, I'm sitting here crying. I'm so sorry. The sad thing is for some of us it never gets better, just worse. I do hope Missy will turn into a great horse so there will be a sort of bright side in all of this. She'll never be Ladybird but she'll be the best Missy she can be.

[FoxFireEMT]

ahhh that had me in tears too. I'm sorry, for both you & Cheyenne.

[vicklynn]

That's pretty tough. Missy deserves a chance to be the best horse possible, though. Ladybird would certainly want that.
Ditto that.

[shewasmyshadow]

I am bawling here too. It's been 13 years since I lost my girl and it just doesn't go away. I would say that says something mighty awesome about your horse, though. It says she was truly worthy of your tears. A great horse stands the test of time and will ALWAYS be in your heart. :)

Give Chy a BIG hug. Like JackieB said, Give Missy a chance. Maybe go back to square one and don't ride her, just BE with her. Just love her and show her you care. Let her bond with the kids.

[FatSpottedAppy]

That is just so sad.. :( (((HUGS))) In time..

[jeezitsjacki]

aw thats just heartbreaking... poor girl

[Mandzanita]

My eyes totally welled up when I read the last part. I can't imagine the pain you all went through. Even after the pain has relented a little the hole that THAT kind of horse leaves can seem so unfillable. I'll be praying for you guys, both you and the kids.

[Country Girl 43]

I really think when Missy bucked with Chy it blew all her confidence. It really scared the crap out of her and me! Even though she stayed on.....that is something that Ladybird would never do to her. Ladybird did everything to protect Cheyenne. Although Ladybird did buck Nico one time....LOL...I didn't know the old gal had it in her. :huh:

Missy is a good horse. She has some small issues and because she is a bigger horse, I get nervous too. If she had never bucked I don't think we would have a problem. Missy responds to Nico really well. Heck...I might start horse shopping for Chy. Something smaller that she can gain her confidence back again. We only have the two and Chy can't ride Dallas yet in the arena, although.....I feel confident to allow the kids to ride him on the trails.

I know it will take time......but I don't want Chy to be scared all the time. Never had to worry about that with Ladybird. Just get her out and let the kids ride. I can't do that with Missy right now. Maybe with Nico on her, but not with Chy. Her lack of love I feel transfers to the saddle and Missy knows it. :(

[livaward]

Jeeze.....You make me cry every time! I think that maybe shopping for a horse for Chy might be just what she needs........I know it is hard on her and you are doing everything you can do and doing it right.....(((((HUGS)))))

[WP~Paint]

Awe, I'm so sorry to hear about this. Maybe a horse for her would be best, sounds like she needs that confidence back. Hugs to all of you guys.

[Remali]

It's really hard to go thru losing a special horse....it's been a year since I lost my Kara, and I still miss her more than ever and I can't really grasp that she's gone.

That may be a very good idea to go horse-shopping for Chy, like you say something smaller for her might be good. And maybe with a new horse she'd bond more with it since it would be more "her" horse, if that makes sense.

[shewasmyshadow]

There is a lot to said for an older careful horse. There is just something about them. :) I got my Rashad when he was 16 and I was 12. He ALWAYS took care of me. He was the bottom of the herd, but when it came to me he was FEARLESS. He protected me at all costs. He still would, but fortunately I'm not that young inexperienced rider anymore. I remember falling between his legs and seeing him hold himself above me before falling back to save me from being trampled.

I would look at some horses for Chy. An older experienced ride and maybe even something more her size. I learned to ride on a 20 yr old 14 hh arab mare. She was an excellent first horse. She was pony sized, but had the thought process of a full-sized horse. No naughty pony stuff, but still my size.

[Country Girl 43]

The funny thing is Missy is 16 yrs old. But she is big. Even though we did get her for Chy, Missy responds better for Nico.

She is a sweet mare. But many animals choose their owners. Missy has bonded with Nico and is trying with Chy, but still I get nervous if she ever bucks with Chy again. She just has Chy's number. We will see. I'm in no hurry to get another horse.....just went from 4 to 2. But I want Chy to feel confident again. Maybe the right horse will fall into our lap.

Guess I will go out and play with Missy now. Kids have to ride her this weekend.

[Vibe]

Aww, I am in tears now!! Bless you all, I am so sorry. I hope it gets better soon, And Missy gets her chance.

[starkitten]

It it like a boy for a girl and a gril for a boy? I'll tell you as a greenie mares took there toll on me. I sold my first horse and then got a gelding we hit is off?

[pandorasmom]

Awe, I'm so sorry to hear about this. Maybe a horse for her would be best, sounds like she needs that confidence back. Hugs to all of you guys.

Yea I agree. Maybe one will come along for you just like Missy did. :)

I wish y'all all the best and I hope with time Chy can gain her confidence back. :) I'm sure she will with time.

[Piper522]

That is heartbreaking! I am sure that was really tough for you. If Missy and Ladybird used to hang out together you can tell Chey that Ladybird had lots of talks with Missy before she went up to heaven on how to take care of Chey!

I wish I was there to give that little girl a big hug! :)

[GrungeEquestrian]

Its always hard when you lose a horse that is so special to you. It brings tears to my eyes whenever I hear these colic fatal stories when I think it could happen to Trouble. Its always hard especially for childern who haven't had such a hard hit before. But it really does make you stronger and really appreicate what you have now at the present and what is waiting for you after you die. Horses like Ladybird are very special and there will never be another one like her. But she wouldn't want Chy to give up on Missy.

I think getting another horse may be a good idea, but I would wait and see how she does with Missy. Bonding with a horse (especially in my experience a mare) takes a lot of time. Especially when that person really isn't accepting the relationship fully. I have owned Trouble now for almost an entire year and it amazes me how differently she acts around me than she used to...that she actually knows me. Horses like Missy also make you a better rider, I know if it wasn't for horses like that I would have never been able to take on a mare like Trouble. They are the horses that will once in a while give you a reminder of what powerful animals they truly are.

[Dakota Sunrise]

That is so sad.:cry: (((hugs)))

I know how she feels. After my dog (who was also named Lady) died, I was upset about it for months. She'd been part of the family since I was 5 or 6 years old, and she always took care of us. When we were little my mom never had to worry about us when we played outside, because Lady was there to watch over us. She was the sweetest dog ever, and even though she was with us for ten years, it wasn't nearly long enough.
I was sad for so long after we finally had to put her to sleep. After a while I felt better, but it didn't take much to set me off again. Just hearing her name or looking at a picture, or really anything that reminded me of her, would make my eyes tear up. I miss her so much, and I too wish I could have her back.
But it does get easier, Chy (and you and Niko too) just need more time.

Perhaps another horse would help, one that was maybe older and smaller, a baby sitter that she could regain her confidence on. But then again, Missy might work out just fine, sometimes it takes a while to really form a strong bond.

[Gypsy Rose]

I'm so sorry! I don't know what to say, except that maybe time will make it easier for Chy.

[zoel_222]

:cry:

That's so sad.

(((((HUGS))))) to all of you

[Steelhorserider]

I think you are taking the right approach...be open to getting another horse for Chy, but wait for the right time and the right horse. Wishing you and the kids the best.

[Ryderd65]

There's a horse for Chey out there, and I'm sure it will appear when she's ready. And probably when you least expect it.

Sierra lost her dog one year ago and still cries for him sometimes. It gets me every time :cry:

Deep breath Kristy. Your little girl will be ok.