Guy Friend Help

[GrungeEquestrian]

Well I wrote this back on horse.com in September about my guy friend and my other friend who both asked me to homecoming (lets call them Bob and Moe). A very complicated story but in the end I went with the first guy (Bob) that asked me. Homecoming though was very awkward and just not fun. I explained to Bob ahead of time that we were going as just friends but he didn't seem to get that through his head. When my friend Moe (who I do like) asked me to save him a dance my date Bob got very upset and wouldn't allow me to leave his side. Well after homecoming I stopped talking to Bob, he really upset me and I thought it would be best to keep my distance since he didn't understand or want to understand that I didn't want anything other than friendship.

This was September...yesterday from out of the blue Bob comes up to me while I am talking to my girl friends and asks me out. I was completely shocked and basically answered with "uh" he then said "how bout saturday." I was able to say that no I had a party and well...he left before I could finish the rest. When I got home from school he messaged me on facebook asking about Friday. I kindly explained to him that I didn't want to date anyone right now and that I didn't have the time and was grounded until Friday (which was all true), he said fine and seemed cool with it. Then today I have a lot of my classmates coming up to me asking me why I didn't tell them I was going out with Bob. I explained that I wasn't and they all answered with...well thats not what he said. He has been telling everyone we are going out and it has really annoyed me. I have tried to talk to him and he seems not to get the message...he didn't get it at homecoming...or in the message and I really don't know what to do?!?!

Help!!

[luv2show]

You sounded very nice to him. I would confront him infront of some people so they see what really goes on. He'll probably deny it... which is why it's good to have that discussion around other people because the one in private apparently came back to bite you in the butt. :mad: Oh man some guys are jerks. lol

[Blue]

I'm no good with guys...but I'm sorry you're getting dragged into that! I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings...but if he's not listening to you you might just have to outright tell him you're not interested. Period.

[WashingtonBay]

Guys are better with direct answers than hints. If you will never want to go out with him I would say so as plainly as you can. Tell him you aren't interested. Not because you're grounded or there's a conflict with another plan, because he'll think the only problem is the day, not the idea. No because you're not interested.

You don't have to give him any hurtful reasons. Just say no... sorry.

[outriding01]

Listen girly, guys have very thick skulls. It's because they tend to fall on their heads a lot as little boys, so they need the extra protection. With guys like this one, it sucks, but being kind does not do the trick. You have to be very straight forward and up front. You need to let him know in no uncertain terms exactly what JGH said. A big fat NO, we are not dating, we are not going to, I do not like you in that capacity what so ever, it's not happening! It sucks that he can't be cool with this and just be your friend, but some guys just don't get it.
Today I was in CVS, minding my own business, when a trashy looking, tattoed teenager walked past me, stared straight at my boobs, and said to my boobs "How are you cutie?" I immediately said "Better than you, ugly." Mean, but hopefully he will think twice next time before treating a girl rudely. Guys just don't get it... Good luck with yours! Hopefully you can not only get him off your back, but help the next girl out and let him know this is not how girls appreciate being treated!

[GrungeEquestrian]

thanks ashley, chisekoji, WB,JGH, and outriding. Ok tomorrow I am going to just have to tell him, I know all the drama and junk isn't going to stop...lucky for me he and I share a same group of friends. It just gets me upset guys are just losers and I am sick of trying to be "nice" I guess I always think of what if I was in that sitiuation...but I never would be so first off inconsiderate to drop something like that randomly when someone was talking to their friends. At least I found out early in the year what kind of guy he really is! I'll be sure to update this!

[gabhainn]

guys have very thick skulls. It's because they tend to fall on their heads a lot as little boys

hey i resemble that remark!!!!