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AUEquine
10-21-2008, 07:09 PM
Some of you may have read my thread on h.com about my cousin, here it is so you don't have to double back and reread, and I don't have to retype a history:
I ask for all of your prayers and thoughts for my 22 year old cousin.

When she was 17 my cousin had to have a heart transplant due to congestive heart failure. She has always been a very selfish and needy child, but we all thought a second chance at life would turn her around and make her greatful to be alive. Unfortunatly we were all wrong. Since her heart transplant she has put herself into rejection at least 10 times (that I've been told of), not to mention a host of non health drama. We had finally thought things were looking up, she had met a wonderful guy, found a major and college she was happy with, her own apartment, etc. Unfortunatly something set her off again.
About 2 weeks ago she put herself back into rejection by taking too much medication. To save her the Dr.s had to practically OD her on steroids. Unfortunatly the steroids reacted badly to her anitdepressants and other psycological meds. This all came to a head last Sunday morning when she managed to sneak out of her apt (mother, brother, sil, and boyfriend were there watching her) and she walked barefoot in her pjs some 10+ miles to our church. Luckly when she got there one of the decons recognized her and called my grandfather.
She was admited back into the cardiac unit and was under 24/7 staff and family member watch. Meaning a staff memeber and a family member had to be in the room at all times. We thought things were looking up. However one day last week she went into another psycotic episode and began ripping IV's out, tearing things apart and trying to jump out the window. It took 3 security guards and 4 nurses to subdue her.
She's now in a psyciatric ward strapped to a bed, and has been there for over a week. I talked to my mother yesterday and she said it had been a slightly better day, meaning she had more lucid moments than non. Right now the doctors say it's just a waiting game to see if when the steroids work out of her system if she can recover.
So please pray for her that she can finally learn the value of life and that there are only so many chances you get. And please pray for our family, especially her mother, brothers, s-in-ls, and her boyfriend.
Well the news has become even more grim. She did get over the psycotic break, however her health has paid severly for it. All of her arteries are blocked, and unfortunatly this is not like normal blocked arteries where a bypass or a stint can help. Her entire artieries are clogged. They put one stint into the worst one in July, and it is no clogged and must be replaced. In addition they have 6 others to put in.
On monday my mother and my aunt met with the UAB doctors to discuss her prognosis. And it's worse than we tought. Due to her non-compliance, the antigens already in her body, and the steroids they'd have to use, she's no eligible for a 2nd transplant. Basically she is a walking time bomb. They asked what time they thought she had and the doctors said, 'days, weeks, months, it could happen anytime.' They did say that this would be her last Christmas. They will continue to do what they can with the stints, but it's just a matter of time before one of the arteries completely stops. The only good news we've heard is that when this happens she will collapse, and will feel no pain. A very small consolation to us as we ponder what's to come!
The doctors are discussing this week what to tell her. Because of her fragile mental state, she and her therapist have been dealing with this with denial. So they will have to determine how much she should know and how much is too much.

So please keep my family in your prayers, we are a very close family, and my cousin is closer to me than most people's sisters!

Right now we're praying for the next surgery to work, and then we'll pray for the next step. But in the long run, I just hope she can hold on for her brother's wedding next July! But the docs said 6-9 months tops!

Thanks guys, I'll try to keep ya'll updated!

***side note, I will need an LOA to go home this weekend to see the family!

Blue
10-21-2008, 07:13 PM
Oh no! I don't know how I missed the original thread! That sounds horrible! PRAYERS HEADED YOUR WAY!

vicklynn
10-21-2008, 07:14 PM
Wow, not sure what to say.
Prayers up for everything.
No LOA needed, your papers are granted free and clear.

Gypsy Rose
10-21-2008, 07:18 PM
I also don't know what to say, except you and your family will be in my thoughts.

AUEquine
10-21-2008, 07:25 PM
Thanks guys, we honestly don't know what to say either! We all know the medical story, we know what the doctors have said, but my heart has no clue, and can't comprehend!

My family consists of my father's side only, and we are thick as theives. There were 12 grandchildren and of those only 3 girls! One of those lived in Nashville, but Ann and I lived in B'ham. We spent every sunday playing together and as we grew older we shopped and went to movies together. We drifted as I went to college, but she was still the sister I never had! I guess I just hope I get the chance to tell her that!

Dakota Sunrise
10-21-2008, 07:38 PM
Like everyone else, I really don't know what to say except I'm sorry, and I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

SedonaThunder
10-21-2008, 07:55 PM
Stunned as well. It is very hard to understand someone hurting themselves - my boss' neice is in a psychiatric hospital now so I've been trying to make sense of it for awhile. I really hope they can help Ann and she will be in my prayers.

Arrow
10-21-2008, 07:58 PM
I will be thinking of you and your family, and watching for updates.

JackieB
10-21-2008, 08:02 PM
God Bless. I also don't know what words of comfort to try to offer during this difficult time. Just know that we are thinking of her, you, and your entire family.

mtnmollie
10-21-2008, 08:05 PM
Hugs and prayer.

"It is very hard to understand someone hurting themselves."

People do that when they are in pain- heart pain.
Emotional pain- people in prison cut themselves.

Our teen- agers do that too.

Many people are broken in America.

Equine_Woman
10-21-2008, 08:05 PM
You and your family will be in my thoughts. What a horrible reality to face. I hope that a miracle comes and if that's not possible I hope that whatever time she has left is peaceful. Big hugs.

starr
10-21-2008, 08:09 PM
prayers are sent

outriding01
10-21-2008, 08:42 PM
Hey Julie, I'm really sorry to hear about this. I'll be keeping you guys in my prayers and I hope things just work out to where everyone can be at peace. Have a safe drive home.

palomino
10-21-2008, 08:54 PM
Thinking of you, know we are here for you!

AUEquine
10-21-2008, 09:48 PM
Thanks so much guys! I means alot to have somewhere to turn to talk about this stuff!

The one thing I keep thinking of that somewhat raises my spirits is my grandmother!
My grandmother is the only loss we've had in our family, and she was always a big supporter of family! She always wanted the family together, she made us as tight as we are today, and we've stayed that way to honor her memory! But I can always remember the tight bond she and Ann had. I guess she saw alot of herself in Ann. She has suffered from depression in a time it wasn't talked about, and delt with it by pouring herself into helping others! Ann was definatly her favorite, never in a bad way, you could just always see the bond!
Now with this news, the one thing that keeps popping into my head about the time she passes... it's not about 'what will WE do without here', but instead 'Grandma's getting some family with her.'

rockyridge
10-21-2008, 10:12 PM
my prayers are with you and your family ...

AppyLady
10-21-2008, 10:30 PM
I'm sure sorry to hear about your cousin. Sending good thoughts your way.

Toodlestoo
10-22-2008, 05:11 AM
Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this extremely difficult time. One day at a time! As much as you rationalize, I don't think anyone is really prepared when the time comes. Don't hold it in--allow yourself to feel the emotions. It's a tough, tough situation.

oursarge
10-22-2008, 05:15 AM
A very sad story. I wish things were different, I'll be thinking about you and your family.

lisakaye
10-22-2008, 05:15 AM
My prayers are with you and I am sending all of the love in the word to get your family through these tough times.

cloedoll
10-22-2008, 05:15 AM
I don't even know what to say. You guys will be in my thoughts.

Gliderider
10-22-2008, 05:21 AM
You and your family are in my prayers and thoughts.

lovesfortune
10-22-2008, 05:56 AM
I'm so sorry. I must have missed the original thread as well. I am sending prayers. I'm glad you are going home this weekend to be with your family. ((hugs))

menagerie
10-22-2008, 06:06 AM
Prayers sent and my heart goes out to you.

rums_mom
10-22-2008, 07:42 AM
What a difficult thing to go through. Use the time you have left with her to let her know how much you love her. Unfortunately she may have decided a long time ago that it was her time to go, way before she should but if her will to live is gone, there is little you or the medical team can do. I hope you have a chance to spend time with her, talk about the good times you had growing up together and laugh. I pray that you find the strength to get through this awful time.

shelsnsaus
10-22-2008, 07:48 AM
Wow, what a hard situation to be in for everyone involved. Hugs and prayers out to you and your family.

mtnmollie
10-22-2008, 08:30 AM
"talk about the good times you had growing up together and laugh...
let her know how much you love her"

Good advice Rum'smom.

All4Grace
10-22-2008, 09:10 AM
<<<hugs>>>

Country Girl 43
10-22-2008, 09:38 AM
Oh my....I don't know what to say. I am so sorry.

Many prayers headed your way for you and your family.

JetLagaside
10-22-2008, 09:48 AM
Hugs and prayers for you and your family.

CircleR
10-22-2008, 11:19 AM
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.